Making & keeping friends

From mnlaalxndr28: I don’t know how to start this, I’ve never had luck having or keeping female friends or friends in general. And I just got a new job and meet 2 girls here and I thought we had a really good connection with both we went out once and talked a lot about our life and ourselves. But last week they started going out without me. And I feel left out they keep excluding me from plans and the conversations are going away. I feel hurt and I don’t know what to do. Is it me? Should o give them the benefit of the doubt? Should I say something?

Please let me know your thoughts about this and ask questions if you like, I feel really alone as I’ve been liking having someone around to talk to and now I don’t.


I’m so sorry that you’re feeling excluded after making a connection with these girls. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is.
Sometimes we have to really trust our guts with things.
Maybe you could ask them if they’d like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime and you can gauge how they respond to that.

Hi Friend, welcome to Heartsupport, thank you for posting. I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I would personally encourage you to ask your friends when you are all free if you can meet and have a good old chat, then you can ask them how they are, let them know how you are feeling and that you are a little concerned, I am sure either way they will put your mind at rest even if it is not what you want to hear it will remove all the doubt and anxiety that is bothering you right now however I get the feeling its not goin to be bad at all but just misjudgement and overthinking.
Best of luck
Lisa. x


From mamadien: <@1138513633077370951> it’s really hard navigating friendships and friendships at work can be even tougher. But, you could talk to them. If you have already tried asking them to go out and they were busy, was this just a one time busy? Or have you asked more than once? If it was a one time thing, then try again perhaps. If you’ve asked more than once, then likely they aren’t interested. Sometimes, making friends is easier when you have things in common. Are there any hobbies or things you like to do that would put you where you could meet others and perhaps makes friends? That may be easier. Please let us know how you are doing. And we value your friendship here always.

From mystrose: Hi MnlaAlxndr28 welcome to Heart Support! I"m sorry you’re having problems with your friend group. I think talking to them might be helpful. You can ask them if they want to hang out again, maybe they were actually busy last time and just need to find some time. Sometimes, just talking and getting answers and intentions helps a lot. Let us know how things work out. you matter!

From mnlaalxndr28: I decided the take a step back and don’t take it personal, maybe is just me overthinking because of my own insecurities and fear of loss, I’ll make time to talk to both of them and see if it was just me or something happened


From mnlaalxndr28: Thank you so much all for your support!! I know I can’t be the only person who feels this way about friendships and sometimes my head just goes wild and brings me tons of anxiety


From mamadien: It sounds like you have really thought this through and made some really sound decisions. Please let us know how it goes and how you are doing.