My grandma got covid back in october after a memorial service for my uncle to died from covid and never really recovered. She wasn’t a healthy before all this so its been really hard to get insurance and medical facilities to work with us. I work in the medical field as an EMT and for some reason my family thought that qualified me to be her power of attorney. She recently got C-diff which is VERY contagious and more often than not is basically a death sentence for the elderly in my experience working with health care. I’ve accepted the fact that she’s not going to make and would honestly be surprised if she lived to February.
There’s no more the hospital can do for her. We were told by her case manager that since she wasn’t vaccinated for covid and needs isolation for C-diff then nursing facility wouldn’t take her unless she was vaccinated. She’s been strongly against the covid vaccine but the options we were given was to either have her vaccinated so she can go to a facility or have her sent home still contagious with C-diff for my 78 year old grandpa to take care of.
We made the choice to have her vaccinated opposed to her wishes when she was still coherent to protect my grandpa. Despite what we were originally promised, facilities are back tracking and still refusing to take her in because she requires isolation. We’ve had to get a lawyer involved. I’ve talked with my coworkers and they’ve all agreed with my concern, that if she goes home my grandpa will get the C-diff and probably be dead within a couple months at best. The hospital, caseworker, and insurance say there “doing all they can”. If we can’t find a facility that her insurance covers then we would have to figure out something out of pocket (which we can’t afford) or she becomes a ward of the state. I’ve done transfers to those state facilities and every time I hate myself for it because of how they treat patients and all the reports I’ve written against them go nowhere.
I’ve been fighting on her behalf for months. But I don’t know how to reason with people that recognize sending my terminal grandma home to my grandpa will kill him but respond with, “I’m sorry but this is a reality that is completely out of our hands.” I’m so tired and angry and really at a loss of what direction I’m supposed to go from here.