I’m pulling my hair out with my mom LITERALLY ALL SHE FUCKING DOES IS COMPLAIN she complains that her work got her a water bottle for Christmas she complains that her cars not fixed she complains about how everything fucking sucks and not like in a man shit sucks rn sorta way but in a miserable FUCKIN WAY AND SHE DOES DAY IN AND DAY FUCKING OUT ITS ALL SHE FUCKING DOES FROM THE MOMENT SHES AWAKE TO THE MOMENT SHES ASLEEP NOT A SINGLE FUCKING POSITIVE THOUGHT FORMS IN THIS WOMANS HEAD AT FUCKING ALL IM SO GOD DAMN TIRED OF THIS IM FUCKING SICK KF HAVING TO BABY SIT AND CARE ABOUT A 62 YEAR OLD FUCKING WOMAN WHEN THIS IS ALL SHE FUCKING DOES IM TIRED OF HAVING TO BE HER FUCKING ERRAND GIRL CUZ IF IM NOT ITS A FUCKING FIGHT IM TIRED IF BEING HER FUCKING MAID IM TIRED OF BEING EVERYONE’S FUCKING MADE SHE GOES TO WORM IN A FUCKING HOUR AND SHE JUST OPENED A FUCKING BEER GOD FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCKING DAMN IT WOMAN YOU WORK AS A FUCKING NURSE
Is there any low income housing in your area or maybe an all bills paid apartment? Im sure being on disability would qualify you to also get food stamps and whatnot. It seems like your environment is pretty toxic. Surely theres an opportunity to get out.
Don’t hold back! Just tell us what you really think! Just kidding.
She’s suffering. She’s miserable. Her brain is locked in a self-destructive thought pattern.
Are you angry because she is suffering, or because her suffering is getting on your nerves?
She never has happy thoughts? Can you imagine what it must be like to be her?
It’s not your fault that she is the way she is. There’s nothing you can do about that.
The only control you have is the extent to which she rattles your brain. She is not making you angry. She has no control over your emotional response. It may feel like a reflex that you can’t control, but how you react to her behavior is a choice. You can choose to let her drive you up a wall, or you can choose to not let her mental illness become yours.
As far as running errands and doing stuff around the house, it’s really good for you to remain active. The more you do, the more you can do, and that will be important when your mom is no longer around, or you are no longer around your mom.
I hope it gets better for you.
I’m gonna have to disagree with this your not stuck with her everyday listening to her being so deeply negative about EVERYTHING she has literally gone to the extent of knit picking the types of sodas I’ve bought cuz I decided I wanted to have a orange soda rather then a cola
I get what your trying to say but this isent her asking me to pick some stuff up while I’m out this is her being awake several hours longer then me and the moment she hears that I’m awake telling me to go get her breakfast
Both cuz she won’t listen to us on how she needs to get better she tells us her co-workers tell her she’s too strong for therapy when we got her to go to therapy she just complained on how it’s a waste of money and stopped going after her second appointment
Honestly the best way I can sum up being around and living with her is by repeating something my brother said “it’s her world we just live in it”
There is not any in my town and more over I need help getting places as I do not drive and I do have food stamps the main thing is mostly I need someone I trust to live with I’m a agoraphobe and I know if I live alone I’ll either shut out the world around me or just fall apart I already do the whole shutting out the world thing a bit as it is cuz it’s all alot too handle and I just can’t some times and if I’m alone I’ll become a hermit and honestly I don’t want to be come a complete shut in
What about public transport? And as far as not wanting to live alone, you can always go the roommate route and cohabitate with an acquaintance. Maybe see if your insurance will pay for a nurse or someone to make sure you’re well a few times a week.
At this point it sounds like its either get your own place or try to make peace with your mom and brother. In my personal opinion, getting out of a toxic environment can be absolutely freeing and can make you more aware of what you’re capable of physically, mentally, emotionally and motivationally.
I am so sorry that your mom is putting you through that. If you can I would go take a walk to clear your head and get some space. She will pull through.
I’d have to move to a city for that which I can’t afford I live in the Midwest of America we don’t get public transportation here unless it’s like the down town parts of st Louis
I live in the midwest too, I just don’t like asking where people live. Well, in any case I hope you find a solution. We have a thing here where a transportation company provides services exclusively to disabled people. Maybe there is something like that? Are you able to do low impact stuff like cycling?
On the other hand, do you have any creative outlets or other coping strategies?
I’m not suggesting it’d be easy, but just sit with the thought for a while. It’s doable, but only if you believe it’s possible. Imagine just a little bit of time, like 15 minutes, when her words can’t push your buttons. You can build on that. Do you have a decent set of earbuds or headphones, so you can listen to some relaxing or feel good music?