Basically my partner has been diagnosed with depression and has been given medication which he is yet to start.
Back story- we’ve been together almost 6 years and we’ve lived together for over 4.
We don’t have any family close to us or anything like that it’s just me, him and our animals.
I’m finding it almost impossible to live with him, he’s being plain horrible to me constantly. He’s got no money as he’s just finished his degree (mature student) and I’ve lent him nearly 2k which I worked my socks off for. I’m always such as positive person and no matter what the issue believe it can always be fixed.
I got myself a puppy a few months ago as I lost my dog November 2019. I wanted a dog more than anything in the world as I missed mine so much. He wasn’t at all supportive of my choice and admittedly it has drawn a wedge between us. The dog is mine I care for it, pay for it, train it etc. We attend training every week etc. And I’m so glad I got the dog because during this depressive situation I don’t feel so alone.
Back to the depression situation he’s been miserable for months, he gets so angry with me and now doesn’t enjoy anything. We went to a place the other day he usually loves and it was like he didn’t want to be there at all. He shouts at me, swears calls me every name under the sun.
A few weeks ago we were on our way to a quiz and he had been so horrible to me swearing and I mean screaming like there’s no tomorrow, the windows were open as it was a hot day and I had to close there, people were staring I thought someone was going to phone the police. I refused to get out the car and go to the quiz because I’d been treated so badly it was embarrassing that’s when I contacted his family asking for help. I needed someone to support him more than me.
At the moment he’ll agree to go somewhere with me then won’t get ready on time, does everything he can to not go. Today the same happened he didn’t get out of bed, wouldn’t get ready and we had to be there for 10am we couldn’t be late. I ended up going alone and at the event I was the only person by themselves everyone else had someone. I came home and what had he done? He’d gamed, didn’t do any house work and wasn’t even dressed.
I know our life isn’t always like this and I know it’s the depression and usually yeah we argue but we are happy, we have great times together. At the moment I’m not happy, he’s depressed and I just want to do something stupid to myself.
I have an awful lot on my plate I work, go to uni, look after a puppy and do 99% of the housework.
He works part time.
Please will someone direct me to a support group or something I need it.