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My wife passed away three years ago. I have become Comfortably Numb when ever I am alone. I have been working on it without much success.
The numbness can be protective, but it tends to stifle us if it goes on for too long. Maybe it’s time to look inward and explore yourself, to see what interests you may have developed while you weren’t paying attention. Remember to take steps outside your comfort zone when you feel able to do so. Challenge yourself to try new things every once in a while. It doesn’t have to be all the time, that’s unsustainable. But the way we continue to grow and develop as people is to continue finding new facets and avenues of ourselves and explore them.
Best of luck to you in your efforts, and don’t hesitate to reach out anytime you need a bit of support. We’re here for you. I believe in you.
First I want to say I am so, so sorry that your wife passed away, it would devastate me and the kids for sure for a long time. I also found myself comfortably numb for many years. Although I did not realize it, I believe it stemmed from my dad dying when I was 10 years old. As Taylor mentions in the video, I was using numbness as a way to cover up what was really the issue in my life and as I got older and experienced other pains, I tucked them under the same numbness umbrella. I thought I was doing a good thing, finding a way to deal with the pains of life. I found that becoming comfortably numb was really not such a good thing, although it might seem that way for a while.
I understand why you say your comfortably numb when you are alone, it seems like a perfect time for those hurts and pains to bubble up in your mind and then you just become numb to them. Its almost like a sneak attack, I get that. I do hope you continue to work on it hopefully with a therapist who can relate and deal with your numbness. Although it may be difficult, it is so worth it when you experience a breakthrough.
Thank you for reaching out and posting on our wall. As you know, we are here to listen and hopefully help in some way that is impactful to you.
It is never easy to lose someone you love, it feels like a piece of you is missing. You even have days when you just want to shut off all of your emotions so the pain will go away. Unfortunately, we can’t tell life which course to take, it determines this on its own. I want to end by telling you to stay encouraged and know that time really does heals just give it some time and know that in the midst of every dark, painful situation there is always light. Sending my sincere CONDOLENCES!!!