This morning I cried, thinking about how I’ll leave my mom behind with my narcissistic, controlling brother (I don’t know how many times I’ve typed that out in recent moments of despair ).
Later on today, my brother schedules a “family meeting” AKA “I’m upset over something you’ve already apologized to me about so it’s time for me to put you down in front of everyone and tell you how little you’ve done to make me feel better”
I was pissed and had attitude and my boyfriend didn’t care but put up the front that he did, in fact even I thought he cared! Luckily with the narc-spiral, after negativity comes the bombs of positivity, there are little bombs right now. Everyone is making small talk and little jokes and my brother of course telling stories about himself, things seem fine now. But, my bf and I have broken our last straw.
We both made a promise to let go of pride and not take what they say to heart and put up a nice front until we get the hell out of there.
I just wanted to write about how I physically, maybe even subconsciously, felt a sudden hope after everyone got happy. It’s funny looking at this feeling now. This cycle of…
[Unhappy Narc-bro] → [unhappy everyone] → [blame thrown at whoever] → [Everyone apologizes] → [Narc-bro happy] → [everyone cautiously happy]
I have to mentally break myself out of this habit of thinking everything is okay after this, that maybe I’m being dramatic for wanting to move away. It’s so tough. But I’ve found that the more issues appear, the more my boyfriend and I have realized that we need to put pep in our step to move out. The newest breakthrough we’ve made is that we have to leave some items behind. Before they all pissed us off, that would have been a hard decision to make, but now it’s at the point where my boyfriend would have been willing to leave his physical video game copies here! I was shocked and I said “No, we’re atleast going to try and throw the disks in a bag before we do that.” (I couldn’t let him do that to himself)
That is the end of my note. I thought that maybe writing this out, some of you lovely people who deal with narcissists can relate. This is a hard situation to be in…very hard. I sympathize with you all. I hope whoever reads this has a forward-thinking day and put your mental health first before others! Take care you all