I told my friend I have feelings for her. Her situation is very complicated and she’s not looking for anything and may never be looking for anything. I’m finding it very hard to relax into the friendship. I can’t lose her. I need her in my life, even if she’s only ever a friend but I’m finding it hard to try to let go of the feelings I have for her. I can talk to her about anything, but sometimes I feel like I’m burdening her with my problems. I’m worried I’m going to ruin the friendship without even trying or meaning to. I just want so much to be in a relationship and I feel like time is running out. I just want to be able to hold somebody and relax knowing they are there for me and I am there for them and I just feel like it’s never going to happen. I’m sad that she didn’t reciprocate the same feelings but I understand and I’m still going to be there for her as a friend. I just don’t know how to move on from the ideas I had for our relationship moving forward.
Hi @Catfish
Since it you’re first time on the forums i want to welcome you to HeartSupport and thanks for opening up about this.
Yes, been in this situation before in another way where i met someone at work and ask her out and totally went south. rejection is quite hard especially with someone you been friends or just know from a workplace with the only feeling of only being friends. Opening up is honestly the best thing about how you feel you can stop talking to someone really at anytime. These parts of finding a relationship is hard where you’re trapped like this but i have a feeling you can make it through what you’re facing. Relationships have a process but even if this doesn’t pan out you deserve to find that right person you want to be with but also some things take some time to find that right person if this is the right person you want be with don’t feel like you are a burden in her life because if she still in relationship and talking to you still got a chance. Don’t give up on this.
Hold Fast
Hey @Catfish, Welcome to Heartsupport!
I want you to know that it’s so brave of you to tell your friend about your feelings. No matter what age you are, it can truly be a struggle to voice those feelings out.
It’s good of you to recognise that your friend might not want anything right now and I do really get it how it feels to have your feelings not returned the same way back after confessing them. She’s clearly accepted you and your feelings as they are in a way that you can hopefully continue on as friends.
That being said, if you are struggling to being just friends with her it’s okay to take a step back and invest your time into looking for more elsewhere while you’re trying to heal your heart back from the heart break.
You might struggle to lose those feelings because you’re on some level still holding in for the hope of something more to come. Someone once told me you can only get rid of heart break by falling for someone else and it might just be true. Go along with your friends to parties and other places where you might meet new people and get yourself out there for something else. You might find yourself detaching from your friend as you do.
Thanks for reaching out to Heartsupport with your troubles and I hope to hear back from you again. 
Be safe with your heart and to whom you give it next. And never regret on being brave!