So, let me begin by saying that generally, our relationship seems (on my end) quite solid, we live together and have been married for almost a year. we have known each other for nearly 10 years.
Recently I have been feeling like things have been a little distant, she has been staying up much later, not coming to bed until I wake up for work etc.
I let my paranoia and curiosity get the better of me and I logged into her twitter account to check her messages, my heart sank with what I found.
She has been messaging a transgender MTF (Just for context, it doesn’t matter if they were or were not transgender)
The messages between them both generally seem quite platonic, though as I kept reading, they had been exchanging explicit pictures with lines of things like “I would love to suck that” “Finish on my …” etc, It’s likely they would never meet, this person seems to be from Russia.
I don’t want to access her other social media and messaging platforms, I dread to think if i’d find something else?
I don’t know what to do here, my work life is generally already quite stressful and this has overloaded me to the point where my chest is tight, I feel like I might explode.
I need to deal with this rationally but I don’t know how, I don’t know what to think, is this essentially cheating? should I approach her about this and if so how would I approach the conversation? I highly doubt “I logged into your twitter and saw the messages” will go over well.
I feel like i’m now starting on a path that’s going to lead to something very bad for my health, I can’t focus at work, I can’t sleep properly knowing what she may be doing while i’m in bed.