Sad and conflicted about getting a new job

I hate my current job with a first passion for the longest but after I told one of the nurses that I may be leaving soon because of a job opportunity I got sad.

Thinking how I let them down in a way and how much they might miss me when I am gone because I take my job seriously even though I am a housekeeper and I am re-thinking a lot of things and thinking about what a previous interviewer said to me when she was interviewing me “how will I know that you won’t do the same thing for us?” (My job issues) and now I really wish I got on a different career path I feel like now I wasn’t really trying to move forward just get by from low-skilled labor job from pay check to pay check and for some reason I feel so heavily judged.

I am so sad right now.


It sounds like you hate the job, but appreciate at least some of the people there. Taking your job seriously makes a great deal of sense, as there is no better way to demonstrate your integrity. A lot of people are just trying to get by with just enough effort to collect a paycheck, but they are likely to be suffering much more than you are. They live with the stress of possibly being caught not doing enough, and either guilt or forced numbness of conscience.

I figured out that by doing a little bit more, and better than was expected of me, I felt a bit of empowerment and control, and I felt as though there was less drudgery to the work. Such an approach doesn’t always work. Coworkers may become jealous or resentful. They may even try to make you look bad to management. Yet at the end of the day, you can leave with your conscience at peace.

I maintained that “go the extra mile” philosophy in all of my career paths, and despite occasional problems with coworkers, it worked well for me, leading to raises and promotions. Upward mobility and housekeeping may be slow, but it happens eventually.

I have had several career paths, but the one I found most fulfilling is the one I retired from after many years. I started out doing maintenance in a nursing home. Along with that, I became a CNA. Then for a couple of years, I was a full-time CNA, and attended a junior college for an Associates degree. I continued working as a CNA while going to nursing school, and ended up with a bachelor of science in nursing.

Another option is to become an LPN to begin with, and use that higher income to fund further education if you feel like it. There are a lot of other options in the medical field as well, for example physical therapy aide, x-ray technician, phlebotomist, pharmacy aid or host of other things.

Leaving a job where you have made friends is a sad thing, but can be necessary for any number of reasons. The sadness means that even if you hated the job, you found some good in it. Often, the only way to advance and increase income is to change employers. When it comes time to do that, it’ll be a sad thing again. It’s also possible that you can find yourself in a position that you don’t want to leave. That’s okay too.

I did manage to leave my employers on good terms, so they’d be willing to hire me back.

Low skill jobs offer a great opportunity to develop a work ethic that will serve you throughout your career. Before I went into nursing, I landed one of the best jobs I ever had by starting out feeding pigs. That one led to a partnership offer in a property management company on the Big Island of Hawaii. So, one can never know what future opportunities may come.


Changing jobs is extremely stressful, and it can manifest in sadness. I know every time I’ve changed jobs, I’ve dealt with about 6 weeks of major depression. Even my worst jobs had their highlights, and going into something where I knew no one and nothing and had no expectations and no established daily routine was scary and felt like a vacuum that was too big for me. I got through it by reminding myself that it was only temporary, that I would settle in, that I’d been through the same thing before, and that there were good reasons I changed jobs in the first place. After those 6 weeks of growing pains, things felt “normal,” and I had a firm foundation to explore my job functions from.


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