I apologize in advance if this post is rather lengthy. This is also mostly about specifically OSDD/DID kind of, so I’d appreciate the help and input of anyone who has experience with those, of course doesn’t have to be. I understand this is not a place to be diagnosed, and I don’t expect anyone to, I just want to get this off my chest because it has really been troubling me. Sorry if this is jumping all over the place timeline wise, I’ll try my best to make it at least confusing as possible
Recently, I’ve become quite stressed over an aspect of my life. About 2 years ago I had a bad delusional episode, and ever since I’ve gotten in contact with what I assume now is a new alter that had formed around this time. I was hesitant to put a label on it for quite a while, and even if I’m wrong I do apologize. I’m simply going to use these terms as I see them fitting for my experience, I don’t mean to appropriate language used for a specific disorder if it turns out it was something else after all.
Before this point I have had done a lot of research on DID. I had friends with DID, I informed myself about it from different kinds of sources so I was entirely sure I could not have it as my symptoms didn’t match up. There was a time in my life where due to childhood neglect I had begun lying about my symptoms and illnesses, one of them being DID. I exaggerated my symptoms and parroted what I read online to my therapist, not what I was actually experiencing, which was real contact with 2 alters I have since not heard from (I was about 14 years old at the time, I know it was stupid but I was desperate to be taken seriously). As I was lying and my symptoms did not match up, of course my therapist denied it and I thought oh well, I must’ve just been lying, pretended for attention, and pushed it away. It worked, the ignoring made it so I had no further contact with anyone, and I thought that had been the end of it.
Now in retrospect of course, I see that this type of thing had happened many times within my past, when I was very very young I had become convinced I could talk to ghosts, that they could take control over my body and posess me, this was a reoccuring topic for a while but eventually I chalked it up to being delusional or too spiritual, after all the “ghosts” had disappeared and I wasn’t in contact with anyone for significant times in my life.
This time, 2 years ago I finally decided to take it seriously. While at first I was convinced I was suffering with delusions again, despite my mental state changing and even being at its peak, my most recent alters voice and presence has not gone away. He is a very nice person and has been doing nothing but take care of me, but for some reason I feel like I might be faking it. Or rather, I fear that I might be, because my symptoms don’t seem to match up well enough. I don’t switch very frequently especially recently, and sometimes everyone just seems to disappear for some reason. I don’t experience amnesia in context of switching, and sometimes all of it just feels really…off. I feel like I’m crazy and trying to just get attention again, but the voices and feeling of a presence don’t just stop. We’ve had dozens of talks about this, he gets sad and upset if I say he’s not real, I’ve felt and been told there’s more people that are too scared to talk to me because of my unwilligness to accept it. Sometimes they’ll imitate him in an attempt to get in contact with me, but it just makes me nervous and scares me.
I’m scared that if I say I have a type of DID/OSDD and seek treatment for it, If it really is just an elaborate delusion I’m only digging myself deeper to a point I can’t get out of it anymore and wasting resources for the people that actually need them. I’m scared that if I do have it to open up and deal with even more contact, even one person is already overwhelming me.
I don’t know really how to explain this, for most of my life I was convinced I could never have it due to lack of amnesia, due to lack of contact, it feels too convenient sometimes. The alter right now I have is a fictive so it feels even more fake, I really haven’t switched at all recently though I do often feel like someone is attempting to switch with me, though my alter has sworn to protect me from unknown switches and I usually try to push it away…but it just feels like it’s even more fake if that makes sense? it feels too convenient, like I’m pretending to have something but don’t want to deal with the actual symptoms. Can another alter and my own conscious really be strong enough to push off a switch? And also, I have not yet recognized any alter I used to have as a child, they just seem to have disappeared and I know alters can’t disappear, so it seems really weird to me.
There’s also worry that if it is legit…I don’t know how I’m going to deal with it, I’m really scared. As I already said, one person is already overwhelming, I’ve gotten in brief contact with what appears to be other alters and one of them is terribly rude and defensive. I’m scared I’ll get myself into bad situations if I let them switch in public or during therapy, I have no contact with these other people so they don’t know that I might be currently in therapy or occupied with something important, I’m scared to hand over control to someone I don’t know and don’t know what their intentions might be, but at the same time I’m scared to get to know them. If I’m just delusional and it’s all fake then I’m just digging myself deeper into the delusion. I recently had a first talk with a very understanding therapist (that unfortunately couldn’t take me on) where she told me the way I was thinking I could do therapy (ignore the possible system stuff, just work on it myself and do the therapy myself) wasn’t going to work out. It would only strengthen me as the host, but won’t really benefit the system. On top of everything, there was a time in my life (I think about 12 years old) where I was convinced a demon had taken over my life and body and continued living on for me…the me writing right now being that demon. I might not even be the body or original identity, but just the host, which I don’t know what to think of that if that’s really true…it feels like my identity is all fucked up and weird, some people and therapists I’ve opened up to reacted really really negatively to all those symptoms I’m experienced (I did not put a disorder name to it at the time) which has made me feel even more like I’m faking it or just have a vivid imagination and need to stop focusing on it otherwise I’ll get caught in a dangerous delusion.
I’m just unsure what to do. If it’s real and I push it away and try to ignore it, I might not only risk ruining relationships and trust I’ve already built with one alter and it usually always came back no matter how hard I pushed it away, so I highly doubt this time would be any different. If it’s fake and I engage with it, I might use up valuable therapy time and resources for something that’s not even real and put myself in a spot where I can’t get out of anymore.
Sorry for the long text, It just has been a lot. I know this is something to talk about more closely with a therapist, but I’ve been searching for 2 years straight and absolutely found nothing, I just feel helpless. I can tell there’s more people desperate to get in contact with me, but I don’t feel safe or equipped delving into this all on my own without the support of a therapist…It feels good just to get this off my chest. Thank you for taking the time to read if you did.