From nandini4210: I don’t understand what is wrong with me. I cannot get myself to work because I keep on thinking about people who said bad about me and a friend of mine who blocked me. I miss him and I want to go back to him but he’d make fun of me. What makes people think I’m a dumbf###? I don’t know. Im tired. I just want to get rid of these thoughts and study without getting distracted by these thoughts
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Hello, and thank you for reaching out and for sharing here. It’s so difficult when we’re stuck thinking about the past, and I recognize the frustration, worry, and/or regret that may emerge in these sorts of situations, especially when we don’t understand why others aren’t getting along with us.
It’s normal to deeply care about how others perceive us so this negative perception, particularly from someone who was a friend, can be really overwhelming. I know this is hard, especially because these thoughts are disrupting your work time.
With that said, while it’s easy to blame ourselves or second guess many things, ultimately, it’s often worthwhile to try thinking of the damaged relationship simply as friends growing apart rather than some mistake or similar. I know that’s easier said than done, and won’t take missing him away, but can be an important reminder that we can only change the future, not that past.
I’m wishing you all the best as you navigate this tough path. Please don’t hesitate to make another post if anything is on your mind.
Hello Nandini,
I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. It’s okay to feel hurt and miss your friend. Acknowledge your emotions instead of supressing them like writing them down can help. I think you should be more compassionate with yourself and do things you like to do like watching movies or listening to music.
Feel free to message us anytime you feel worried.
Hi there,
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. Relationships are incredibly difficult to let go of, especially when that person means a lot to you. I support you in all the good you do, and I hope that all works out in the end, because I trust that it will. Please keep being strong, as I and other compassionate volunteers will do our best to give the best of support and any potential advice.