I struggle with self worth and I have my ups and downs. But recently my employers have made me feel worthless. I have been dealing with a hostile work environment for over a month now. Starting with a coworker threatening to fight me while on the clock, management did nothing. As it has escalated I contacted HR after find out this 26 yo guy also bullies a 20yo chick on the clock. An investigation was done and the management covered their asses and “forgot” I was threatened on the clock. I refuse to work woth this man, and HR told me I would never work a shift with him again. Next I know my general manager calls me and tells me they can only accommodate that for a short period and recommends I transfer to a different location without a pay raise… My place of work is .2miles from my apartment. The next closest is 30minutes away. Once again I am left feeling worthless, because they choose to keep an extremely violent and unreliable coworker and tell me I should transfer, knowing I have done nothing wrong in the situation. I really thought I had found a place that actually valued me. I love most my coworkers and they like me and all my weirdness. I volunteered today at Habitat for humanity Restore, and after 1 day of working with them, the backroom lead and one of the big bosses, told me to go get an application, I have the work ethic to easily get jobs so that isn’t my worry. It just hurts because I had finally found a place where everyone accepted me and all my weirdness, I never wore masks or tried hiding myself away. They literally liked me for me.
I’m sorry that you have struggled so much at work. It really sucks that one person has to ruin everything especially something that connects you to friends.
There are ways to report this if your employer isn’t doing anything about it. California has a Department of Fair Employment and Housing and I’m sure whatever state you live in has a similar program. You shouldn’t have to put up with it at all.
I had one bully in the 5th grade and I broke his arm when he tried to grab me from behind. No one ever fucked with me again lol. Don’t do that tho, please… I was a kid.
I had the same outcome with bullies as a child. But, being 31 I have grown tremendously. I don’t really fear this guy, I more so fear what I will do to him if he lays a finger on me. Also, thank you for the suggestion, I will look into that, I honestly had no idea where to start.
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Thank you Beetle. I have slowly been learning about my self worth out of the mental problems I have had my self worth is the hardest to conquer. I know my value and that nothing others say or do will diminish it at all. And I am definitely fighting for myself, I hate conflict, and years ago I would of quit and just found a new job without saying a word. But I know my worth deep down, and that is why I fought for myself this time. Thank you again.
If you walk into HR and say the 3 magic words, “hostile work environment,” they will drop everything to accommodate you. Those 3 words, with some proof to back them up, mean big lawsuits. You don’t have to threaten a lawsuit, just tell them it’s become a “hostile work environment” for the reasons you listed, and that you would like it resolved without further escalation. You may be surprised how quickly they snap to attention.
I told them from the start that it he created a hostile work environment. And actually they don’t care one bit. All said and done and I am the one who they told to just transfer. But that is okay I have a job lined up with Habitat for humanity. And a law firm who might take the case. I don’t want money. I want what is right for their future employees and for that man to learn he can’t threaten people.
There is nothing in the state of Tennessee that protects workers from what I could find sadly, and everything is spiraling, even though they are supposed to have a fair outcome my hours have been cut, I can’t afford to pay my part of the rent now, and didn’t get a call about an interview like I was hoping. The thoughts running through my head now is that I just wanna quit my job and I really wish I would just die of natural causes right now. I’m so sick and fucking tired of being the one that gets shit on all the time
Sounds like retaliatory action to me. They’re trying to manage you out the door, which would just be unethical if it was for personal reasons, but if you’ve complained to HR and it’s happening, that’s a legal gray area. Everything you’ve described here is borderline illegal.
I just wanna snap on them all, but I know that wont help. I have done so well , not snapping on them by now. I am trying one last thing and that is to speak to the supervisor of HR. I don’t really have any hope that they are gonna fix it though.
My moods are changing back to what they used to be, I am beginning to spend every moment I’m awake in depression again, and barely getting sleep. The harder I fight for myself, the worse it hurts. Wishing every moment that I would just die from something already. I am so sick of fighting for a few inches in my life just to be knocked back several feet each time. I had a therapy session for the first time today in years, but I can’t even be completely honest I have to hide the truest feelings or else they will want me admitted somewhere. And that means medication, and I refuse to be put back on drugs. Not to mention last time I willingly admitted myself into a hospital I was sexually assaulted and they made me seem delusional to the cops. So I refuse to ever go to a mental hospital again. It would honestly be best for everyone if I just died, yeah my brother would hurt for a little while, but I would eventually be forgotten and I’m worth more dead than alive at this point. I’m tired of feeling, I have lived by my heart my whole life, and it has done nothing but make me an outcast, weird, introverted individual with absolutely no self esteem. Since this whole issue with work started my chest has hurt so badly as if my heart were literally ripped out and I am so tired of it. Every time I lose someone lately or hear of someone I know losing someone to covid, I just wish it was me in their place. Those people are at least loved and have families, all I have is my little brother and before long I will just be a burden he feels obligated to care for.
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