Anyone else out there struggling with shopping addiction?
I don’t know anymore what to do. I have tried to talk about this, but nobody seems to truly understand. I get responses like “Just don’t buy anything”, “It’s your fault and yours alone”, “Don’t complain, you got yourself in trouble”… I also have told my therapist but she ignores all my troubles and wants to chitter chatter about positive things only.
I have a fiancee, but he is in money trouble, because he always has to pay almost all living expenses. He has a shitty paycheck and his own loans to pay. I study at the moment and have gotten a student loan. I get a new payment in january. My fiancee suggested that I pay all my part payments away with the loan. He doesnt even know how much I have left to pay. I counted that if I pay all away, I don’t have enough money to live by. He doesnt have enough to support us both. I don’t get help from our country’s social welfare. My mom cant help, my relatives wont help, I only have my man and he already has given me all he has.
This has taken a toll on my already shitty mental health, but also our relationship. He is the one for me but I’m scared that I ruin him. He already has shown signs of depression. I feel horrible.
I shop for clothes and things and jewellery. It’s the only thing that brings me joy besides eating and alcohol. I have switched from overeating to drinking and now shopping. I have heard that it’s common to switch one addiction to another. I sometimes wonder if it would be better to have some other addiction, cause then I would be taken seriously and get help.
Long story short, I need to stop buying. How?