From Erjohn: So here’s what happened to me, my girlfriend and I just broke up so shes my very first time and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to move on my heart is still in pain I can’t do the things I Love I can’t play with my hobbies all day i just stared at the ceiling I don’t feel anything but feelings for her. I don’t know what to do I need help.
A breakup is one of the most painful things a person can experience. You are grieving and that is an intensely emotional process. I have experienced it a few times and I haven’t always handled it well. If crying helps with the emotional release, by all means do so.
I’ve spent many long hours staring at the ceiling, or lying in bed in a fetal position, crying. With time, the feelings become more manageable. After enough time has passed, you will find ways to be happy again.
My heart goes out to you.
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From Erjohn: thank you================
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It does hurt having heartache, especially if it’s your first. Healing takes time and mourning that loss takes time.
Give yourself a little grace and a little space to try some self care, even if it’s one thing for now.
It could be sitting in the sun for a few minutes, going for a little walk. Listen to some uplifting music. Give your heart the time to getting back into the things you love, because it comes in time
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From twixremix: i’m so sorry you’re going through this breakup. heartbreak is such a hard pain to endure since it hurts physically and mentally. sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves during times like these are to just do what you’re doing: lay quietly and stare at the ceiling. from there, you can start to journal out your feelings or vent your emotions through other mediums like art, music, exercise, etc… listen to what your heart and mind need to care for yourself. giving yourself that patience and understanding is one of the greatest forms of perseverance humans are equipped with. please do what you need to prioritize yourself during this hard time. i believe in you!
love,
twix
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Well, thing to know, you will find someone else in time. It is ok to feel sucky for a bit. Then pick yourself up, by all means pick up your hobbies when you are able…and be you! Someone will notice that bright wonderful unique person you are.
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Hi Friend, I am so sorry you have had this break up.
the way you are feeling right now is very intense, its no different from grieving the loss of a loved one.
It truly is so very hard and of course you are not going to feel like doing all the fun things you usually do. Right now you probably do not feel like doing much at all but that will change, things will get better I promise you. In the meantime, if you cannot play games or do fun things try and do some things that will help to make you feel better, buy something new, spend some time with a friend, just relax or maybe even do some self care meditation. its your time to take care of yourself. we are here for you anytime. Much Love Lisa. x
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Oh losing a relationship, especially the first one, feels just crushing. It’s a new feeling and a new type of pain. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. But know that with time the pain does ease. Give yourself time to work through the pain and to get your balance back. Be gentle with yourself. Try to pick up your hobbies and do a little bit. Talk to friends if you can. Go for a walk and and find a place alone to just yell if it helps. And keep your heart open to the next time. It’ll happen.
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Hey Erjohn,
Breakups can be very, very painful. Especially first loves. Healing takes time. Though there can and are things that can help along the way, speaking from experience, time is key. Each day will bring a step forward, even if it’s hard to see it.
I encourage you to carve out time for your own self care and self love. Find those little things in life that bring you joy - even small amounts of it - and intentionally seek them out. Give yourself permission to enjoy them. It just may help keep those steps moving forward more and more each day.
I am sorry that you are hurting, friend. May each day bring you and your heart closer to that horizon.
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Breakups suck and I’m really sorry you’re going thru one right now. It seems like the end of the world and that your life will never be the same. Everything is hard right now and it’s hard to see forward.
This is something most of us go thru at different times in life. It sucks, but in order to find your person, you have to have relationships to see if you’re compatible. We all have to. When you find you aren’t compatible it really does suck, but there are things you can learn from it. You can learn a lot about yourself from relationships. You learn what you like and don’t like and the qualities you want in the other person. You can even change things you do in the relationship for the better (we always have that “I wish I could have did that different” moments). All this just helps us find our person.
It’s ok to feel the lose and to feel the pain. It is just like mourning someone and that’s a process we have to go thru to heal. Eventually, (everyone heals differently) you will find someone new and move on and hopefully, you will look back at this relationship and appreciate what you learned from it.
You matter and you’re gonna be ok. <3
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From Erjohn: Thank’s for all of you===
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From Erjohn: I hope I’ll be okay soon=
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From erjohn2552: Hi guys it’s me again it’s been 2 months since we broke up, and she is still on my mind and I still love her how to do this how to move on? Is there a way to get her back?
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Hallo, im very sorry to hear that you’re having a very hard time with heartache.
I’d love to be able to give you all the answers you seek, but as someone who doesn’t know either of you I’d hate to say the wrong thing and cause you more hurt with my naive words.
I know that it can take some time to get to a place where your heart feels healed. You’re not alone in that at all. It’s okay to mourn the loss of having the close connection to someone you care deeply about.
Little by little it gets easier to feel whole. Sometimes it takes a bit of extra self loving and care. And sometimes it also helps to be with good friends and family. Being around those people who remind us how worthy we are of love
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From micro_tato: Hey <@466121214616928257> - Just checking in on you. How have you been doing since your previous message above? <:hrtgradient:1149626553903370280>
From you know who i am: im going thru the same thing rn
From erjohn25: Hi it’s me, yeah I already moved on. It’s just yesterday I feel lonely I already let her go but I’m okay now very much okay now. My mental status is getting better day by day. I’m doing my hobbies again I’m having fun again. Thank you everyone
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From you know who i am: im happy youre doing okay
From you know who i am: congrats my dude=========
Thank you for sharing these updates - good to hear you are feeling better. Wishing you all the best moving forward 