So I am absolutely convinced that I am an asshole. I am dating this guy and I really don’t know where we are. We’ve talked about a relationship, but either one of us have set it in stone, I don’t think. Well a few nights ago him and I was texting and then all of a sudden it stopped. No response to any of my messages and it didn’t help that a small amount of money has gone missing from my home (my son lost ten dollars of his birthday money because he never thinks to put it away).
So of course I became frustrated after 3 days of absolutely no response. I have been left like that before without a word. I tried really hard not to assume that I was just used and dropped, but I couldn’t. My mind went straight there. I figured he picked up the ten dollars (which turns out it was just a coincidence), let me take him home, and then he ghosted me.
I didn’t want to do anything weird like drive by his home or send him ten thousand messages. I assumed it was over and since we only had been talking a few weeks, not to take it personal and that I could just go on with life. In the process of me “going on with life,” I received a text from an old friend and decided fuck it and had a one night stand. I knew that it was a bad choice, but it was the choice I made because technically my friend and I never declared ourselves in a relationship.
Well of fucking course he calls me the next day. I played the mad game trying to decide if I wanted to continue talking to him after what I did until he told me he had been in the psych ward and that why he hadn’t responded. Now I felt…still feel like an complete ass. I am so mad I jumped straight to the conclusion that he just stopped talking to me and of course in that time frame I went and did something as stupid as sleeping with an old friend. Well I know for a fact that the old friend isn’t going to message me until he wants sex again. Hell me may not message me ever again. But now I am stuck on stupid because I just jumped right into asshole mode.
My friend and I hung out last night, no naughty business, just provided him the comfort he needed after a visit to the psych floor. I mean I know, I’ve been there a billion times before. Of course, I am so not mentioning the one night stand with the old friend because this man is clearly going through something that he doesn’t want to talk about. I get it and I’m just trying to be there for him. I just feel bad about what I had done and what I had assumed. I keep asking myself am I really that damaged to do something like this?
I absolutely know for sure that in the future, my first step is to check the hospital, but now I just feel like I don’t deserve him and maybe I am better off alone. I feel completely selfish even sitting here typing this out sounding like a victim when I am not. I feel like shit…