Hi friend, it’s good that you can recognize where you struggle. That’s a start. Self improvement is a thing that I think we as people are always and constantly working on. We are always learning. Always evolving. It is up to us to make good or bad with what we learn and experience.
So let’s start here:
- Can’t keep a clear head when upset
- Struggle with handling emotions
- Can’t focus
So, what are some things that can help or improve these things?
I also struggle with my emotions when I’m upset. Some tips to help better get a hold of this:
- Don’t confront, resolve or make drastic decisions when upset. Instead, when you realize you are upset, voice to yourself and others that you need to take a moment to collect yourself. Allow yourself time to calm down. Once you’ve had a moment to re-center your mind, then go back to whatever that needed to be confronted, resolved or decided. This way you can handle those things with a clam sound mind.
Some things that can help calm your mind and intense emotions:
- Music. I recommend upbeat or calm music. Not angry or aggressive.
- Meditating. There are all kinds of videos and guided meditation audio on YouTube that are free for you to take advantage of.
- Take a relaxing bath or shower in dim lights. Add calm music to help.
- Take a nap. Ever hear the phrase “Sleep on it first”? Literally do that. Nap. Allow your body to rest and see how you feel once you wake up. Generally this resets your mood and intense emotions. Helping you come down from any heated emotions.
- Blog or Diary. Write down everything you’re feeling in a private place. I say private so that you can be as angry and unfiltered as you need to just burn some of that energy out. Do that till you feel like you’ve released that energy. If this just works you up again, don’t do it. It may not work for everyone.
- Take a walk
- Go somewhere like a library, a shop…anywhere. To clear your mind and just be out.
These are all good ways for you to calm your mind and reset your emotions. If you do this when you catch yourself upset, this could make a huge difference. Don’t argue with people. Don’t express how you are feeling in a confrontation when you’re worked up. Find ways to calm down first.
Having confrontational conversations or merely expressing how you feel rarely works when you’re yelling or being upset at someone. It’s much easier to be receiving and understanding if you express yourself respectfully and calmly.
All of those things can also help reset your focus.
I was having major focusing issues among other things and found out I had ADHD. So I take something that helps me focus.
Speak to a therapist, a doctor and or a psychiatrist about your focus issues and they may be able to offer you some help and resources to get that under better control.
The key is to find the problem you are having. I encourage you to write down all the areas you feel you are struggling in. And then try to write small goals and things you can do to help improve that. Ask yourself “What can I do to improve this?”. Things like “Why is this such an issue for me?”
More often than not, you will find you have a lot of the things you need right there in front of you. Write it down. And then you’ll have an idea of what you need to work on.
If you need a friend or a therapist to help you find ways to work on your list, don’t be afraid to reach out. Asking for guidance is a good thing.
Start there. Make a list. (: And if you need help, we are here my friend.
You’re off to a good start. Recognizing where you struggle means you are aware. Being aware is a lot more than some people. So you’re well on your way. (:
You want to be a better person and better version of you. Be proud of yourself for wanting to make a change. And now take that, work on it.
This is how we evolve and change into who we want to be.
Much love