I don’t have a lot of familiarity with the PLEASE, ABC, and STOP structure of therapy, but from what I can tell, it’s an organized and effective way to approach managing life and mental health. It actually presents the coping tools everyone needs to use, though a great many of us learn about them by different means, and sometimes as a result of hard lessons.
I spend a great deal of time in the “core mindfulness” mode. Instead of allowing the chaos and intrapersonal BS get to me, I focus on what I need to do in the moment. That includes what I need to tell myself in that precise moment in order to deflect any negativity coming my way.
Like you, I am a work in progress, and still have a ways to go when it comes to managing difficult people and situations.
Does it help to remember that relapses don’t last forever either? Unfortunately, worrying about them too much can cause them to happen. When you start to worry, think about all the things you’ve already survived, and the progress you’ve made. There’s no reason it shouldn’t continue.
It’s very good to hear that you are getting benefit from the DBT, and you can expect even greater benefit from it in the future.
Perhaps the single greatest factor in achieving success in managing mental health issues, is the ability to be persistently hopeful, even when setbacks occur.
I hope you find a girl who can appreciate you, and bring out the best in you as well. You may find yourself meeting someone when you least expect it. That’s what happened when I met my wife.
Stay in touch! Wings