This is a TLDR as there is a lot of information and this is as best as I could sum it up.
I’ve been dating my now wife for 6 years, and we got married last year. I’m 27, she’s 26. We went to high school together. She was from a very traditional Christian family that wanted us to marry first before we lived together. So we dated for 6 years before we finally got married and moved in together last fall. It was never perfect, but nothing in life ever is. She and I got along well but we didn’t have any time as a newly married couple, or even got to have a honeymoon because when she moved in she had just started her new job in medical coding and decided that she would try to tackle full time classes to pursue another degree as well. I’ve always had a short fuse and she’s always been very blunt with words. Unfortunately, tensions were very high, and we got on each other’s nerves very easily. The love was always there, but the way it was shown wasn’t. Neither one of us were doing our part to listen to each other’s love language. Eventually in March we had a final argument that made her leave. She moved back to her parents’ house and we’ve been in a “trial” separation where we were originally just supposed to be taking time apart to come back and be stronger. We never were able to get couples counseling together. She just refused it for pretty much the entire separation. With no end in sight and just feeling in limbo in the relationship I felt lost and still do. About 2 months ago I succumbed to the weakness in my heart and decided that I wanted to die. I overdosed. One hospital trip later and I’m still here. I have been trying to show her that it’s worth giving our marriage a chance, but she is emotionally checked out. About a month ago she told me that she thinks that divorce would be the best option for us at the moment. She actively says that she still loves me and cares about me but doesn’t know if she will be able to get over the past issues, we had in our relationship even though we’ve addressed the issues. She and I have only had counseling separately during this separation and never together. She finally agreed to couples counseling last week but advised me that I shouldn’t get my hopes up or expect a change. This is just a TLDR and there is probably more information I needed to post to give more background, but that is the basics of my struggles at the moment. I’m not doing well mentally. I truly want my marriage to work. I love this woman with all my heart and soul and she says the same to me and that’s why it just is so confusing and hard to handle.