I feel somehow stuck in life, as in I’m not progressing to change myself. As a child, I would be afraid of other people I do not know and now that I’m grown up, I am still dealing with these issues. Somehow I want to change and yet don’t know how or where to start.
I’m sorry that you feel stuck and that you cannot implement changes as you would like to. There are reasons for your fear of people (or maybe social anxiety) that date back to a time before you experienced this fear as a child. Something happened and this can be something in your upbringing that you’re not (yet) aware of. Knowing your story and making sense of it is crucial, because otherwise you keep fighting the symptoms, which will resurface time and time again. So addressing the cause is key to implement the changes.
Are you seeing a therapist or would that be an option available to you? They could help you uncovering the cause and working on it. If that isn’t an option right now, I’d highly recommend educating yourself about the issues you’re dealing with. Educating myself has helped me so much more than anything else, but I understand that this is an individual preference.
It isn’t hopeless and it’s possible to rewire the brain. Although this might be a process that requires commitment and work, it is worth it and will allow you to live your life more fully.
I’m sorry that you’re having such a hard time right now. As @blini has mentioned, a therapist could be a great start. Remember that you’re an adult and you don’t have to be that freighted child anymore. You have a voice and you matter.
You can try out BetterHelp and get a free 7 day trial thru Heart Support.
I hope this helps.
From: I Am Reclaimer
Hey Friend! It sucks feeling like you’re stuck in life. I’ve been there myself and know what it’s like to feel this way and even not know where to take the next step. That, however, is exactly where you need to focus. It’s easy to get caught up in the grand scheme of things, but it’s important to consider “the next right thing.” I like the philosophy of the next right thing in my life as it helps me break down big things into managable chucks, even simple ones. Consider where you are and then consider where you want to be. Then ask yourself what the simplest thing you can do to get there is (could be going on a walk, picking up the phone to call a friend, apply for a new job, etc). once you start moving into action, things will slowly fall into place for you!
I can totally understand feeling stuck. I often feel that way and I believe we all feel it occasionally. I personally had great success with packing up and moving away when I got the chance. I moved eight hours away and never looked back. It has been the best thing I ever did for myself. Forced me to meet new people and explore different avenues. Best of luck to you. I know you got this.
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