Whats up friends?
Back in ~2013 when I first started being a part of HeartSupport I had already gone through several lifetimes of hell and found respite through the music that bands like August Burns Red, For Today, and Haste The Day were putting out.
The music helped me survive and HeartSupport was a critical factor in this.
In fact, I still turn to music to help me push through things. The energy and the message through a lot of this music provides a cathartic type of healing that reminds me that I CAN make it through.
A lot of us experience tremendous amounts of pain in our life and often we seek to run away from it.
Running away from the pain is completely natural as it’s something that we don’t want to feel, but through my 30 laps around the sun, I’ve come to understand that accepting the pain and even leaning into it can teach us A LOT about life and about ourselves.
For example, the last couple of years have been tremendously difficult for me as I went through a very ugly divorce where I found out my wife was having an extramarital affair. There’s several layers of pain and betrayal that I experienced that caused a lot of other things in my life to fall apart.
In fact, it ultimately lead me to hit genuine rock bottom - I thought to myself, what’s the point of living.
But this where the beauty of pain became apparent to me.
even though I had basically lost everything, I started sitting with the emotions and pain that resided in me and started listening to what they had to say to me.
I ultimately started leaning into this type of self discovery and self healing and found I was able to accept what had happened and it gave me a completely different perspective on life. Why I’m here, why I had to go through so much pain, etc.
Pain is indiscriminate. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how good looking you are, what race or religion you are. It hits everyone.
The difference is what we do with that pain.
When it comes down to it, all the pain I had gone through (this specific event and all other things in my life) was so I could live the life I truly wanted, that I dreamt of.
It taught me not to be afraid to walk through the inferno for what I deserve exists on the other side of pain.
It also enabled me to realize that I can use my experience to in turn help others who may be experiencing troubles themselves. This, by proxy, develops a positive feedback loop that increases healing.
If you’re going through any type of pain, I encourage you to ask yourself, “what can I learn from this?”
There’s hidden meaning in everything we experience in life and pain is one of the most profound teachers that helps us grow into the person we are ultimately meant to be.
Instead of running from your pain, try facing it and accepting it as a natural part of growth that is present in everything in the Universe.
Let this add to your determination to keep going and to hold steadfast through your struggles.