The struggles of being way too attached

So for a little background here, I’m on the asexual spectrum. I think I might be demisexual, but I’m not sure. Either way, I don’t get off to porn. Don’t find it attractive, and I don’t really find anything attractive unless its of my boyfriend.
He is quite the opposite. He is a very sexual person, is open about how he masturbates often, and has talked about porn a ton.
Honestly, I’m fine with this. There’s nothing wrong with it, and it’s completely natural.
But there’s always a pit in my stomach that hates the fact that he’s getting off to other people, the sinking feeling that he finds these other girls extremely attractive. I just don’t know how to feel.
I’m scared of getting too sexual with him because I’m scared that what he sees in these pornstar’s videos is gonna be nothing what I look like. I’m not perfect like those girls are. I’m just scared he’s going to feel repulsed or something when he sees that.

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Hi @midarii

Sex can be pretty complicated huh? I think the only advice I can give you is to have a talk with your boyfriend and discuss it with him. If you love someone and I know you must if you are with him, then you should also trust that he would listen and be open. Honesty and trust are big things to have in a relationship and there is a lot less confusion and misunderstandings if you just talk.

One other thing you should consider is that he might be having a problem with addiction or something. It might not have anything to do directly with you.

So talk :smiley: :hrtlegolove:

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