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Warped Tour Fan #167

I am struggling with feelings of self-harm. I do not feel well right now. The loneliness doesn’t help. I don’t have any friends that I can turn to for help or support. Everyday is becomming a constant struggle to not self-harm, I just want to find a way to escape these feelings, even for just a moment to feel something else. I have self-harmed before, and I understand that it is not healthy. But I just don’t want to feel this way anymore.

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Hey! The first thing I want to ask before I get into this is… How did you feel at Warped Tour? Surrounded by people who share the same passion, that won’t judge you, listening to the music that you love?

I know that when I go to gigs, my thoughts and urges to self-harm diminish in that moment. Music is a huge help for me. If the answer to my above question is similar to my experience with being at gigs, I want you to put yourself back into the head space you were in there. Just because you’re not there physically, doesn’t mean you can’t take yourself back there. Play some of your favourite music, close your eyes, and imagine yourself there. What could you smell? What did the people around you look like? What did you taste? Were you eating or drinking something? What was the stage like? All those things.
If that doesn’t work, you’re welcome to come here ANY TIME. Post on the forum, join our discord and live streams - let us walk beside you. You won’t be stuck in self-harming forever. Every addiction can be overcome - I’m proof of that.
A good resource for you might be ReWrite - a book on self-harm that HeartSupport developed. It’s helped so many people, and could be beneficial to you. If you didn’t pick one up at Warped, you can always grab one from amazon, or for free on the website.
It will get better. You’re loved. You’re not alone.

Hold Fast

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I have struggled with self harm too, you are not alone. It can be really hard to ignore the urge to self harm when the loneliness and hurt are really bad. But I want you to know that we are always here for you. Before you self harm come and post on the support wall and just talk about whatever it is your are going through. Give yourself time and let those strong feelings of wanting to self harm pass. Self harm only continues the vicious cycle of self hate, loneliness, and then harming yourself. Please reach out and let us remind you that you are loved. It will take time, but I promise you that it does get better. You are so loved even when you can’t feel it. When you want to self harm write down 3 really fun and exciting things that have happened in the last 2 years. It can be small like, I tried a new flavor of ice cream to something bit like, I went to Warped Tour! Try to read those moments back and remember that those good times will come again and that you will be ok.

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Hi friend, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with these feelings right now, and I’m sorry that you feel like you don’t have any support around you. While I don’t know exactly what it’s like to struggle with self-harm, I’ve struggled with pornography time and again and know what it feels like to be controlled by certain feelings and wanting to be free from them, even if just for a moment. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and the beautiful thing about reaching out here is that you can get a free work book on helping you deal with your self-harm struggles called ‘ReWrite’ here:

You also have people here in this community who will support you when you feel like you don’t have anyone in the moment. Welcome, you’re not alone here. Hold fast friend!

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Hey Friend. Please email me so I can send you this art AND a free copy of our workbook on self harm called ReWrite.

[email protected]

Hold Fast!


Every time you want to harm yourself, chew a piece of gum, find something to play with like a ball, something healthy to release that tension on. Surround yourself in an environment that doesn’t allow you to. Go to the leaving room or somewhere public is possible. You can always come and talk to us here. We are always gonna be here to support you. Fighting!!