While many would say this song is about question a

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Belongs to: Therapist and Vocalist react to One By Metallica
While many would say this song is about “Question Authority” or even the warning of “The hell of war” and an “Anti War Protest Song”…IN Metallica’s own video titled “Three Of One” it is explained that Metallica had an idea for a song about “What would happen IF you have no way to communicate with ANYBODY at all?” in other words you were totally “cut off from society and everything, sight, hearing and speech no longer functioned”!!!

THEN their manager or producer suggested “Johnny’s Got His Gun” and from that One was born!!

THE POINT to the song is, what if YOU are all alone! Nobody can hear you, nobody can see you, and you are just “ONE”, alone, isolated, abandon!!! And I know first hand HOW this feels myself in that, for me, nobody ever takes me seriously when I talk, I am often ridiculed, mocked, humiliated and taken for granted. And now at 60 years old, I have spent much of my life “alone” even at times when I am in a room FULL of people I am told I “should know”!! Even in my own family, I AM the outsider constantly, so being alone all my years as taught me to be self reliant, self sufficient, and very independent! Though the last 25 or so years I NOW have an amazing woman in my life, BUT even her help, at times I still feel isolated and abandon at times, through NO FAULT of her own!! It has become hard for me to “trust people” and even harder to ask others for help…because of years, decades alone!! And at times I am still all alone in the things I do because it is impossible to for me to find people I can depend on!!

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Friend, my heart goes out to you. Loneliness is awful. Not just the typical, physical loneliness. But the one that you can sense at an emotional level. This feeling of being utterly disconnected from the people around you, even if you are sharing the same space. It feels as if people see you but also not. That they are present yet not really. As if you could only ever be known at the surface, and not at the core of your soul.

It’s so hard to feel that level of disconnection, especially when your heart craves for building those bridges with others. You put yourself out there and you were met over and over with rejection, a lack of understanding - all of that was received on your side as a way to say that you could and should only rely on yourself. And man, that freaking hurts. To feel like you can only count on yourself when you desire to be at least understood and acknowledge by someone.

I am 31 and for as long as I can remember, I’ve always had to rely on myself just like you do. For me, it started early in life because I grew up in an abusive environment. So I learned against my will that my emotions, my inner world, wouldn’t matter to anyone. That I should learn to endure silently rather than reaching out and trusting others with my pain. And to this day, despite progresses and setbacks, I still feel this duality in me. This inner child that desires authentic connections, if not for someone else to save them. And this protector in me that leans towards not reaching out, not opening up, not asking for help - instead, spending evenings crying on my own. My mind knows rationally that I can try to reach out and it is safe to do so. But my heart keeps feeling heartbreak and a need to rely on myself solely, for it feels also safer that way.

It’s hard to navigate in a world that delivered to you this message that what you might feel or think wouldn’t be important. Worse, that you should have it all figured out already. It’s this censoring, “self-empowerement” mindset spread everywhere, making us all perceive vulnerability as a threat. It makes sense to have learned to rely on yourself over the years. It makes sense to have felt hurt by how people treated you. It makes sense to still feel to this day this duality in you - between recognizing that there are people like your significant other who are present for you and bring so much light in your life. Yet to still feel like having to climb this mountain that separates you and the people in your life, at least emotionally. There are definitely days when it feels like healing that type of wound is the work of a lifetime.

I hope with all my heart, that while you are climbing this mountain, through every step taken and setback encountered, you give yourself grace. This is all about being human and trying to navigate the complexity and uncertainty of our emotions… in the midst of a world that is, inherently complex and uncertain. You are doing the best you can with the means that you have. Being here today, you have been such a strong and resilient ally to yourself over the years - that means something too. :heart:

-Marie-Anne