You can call me Sapphire.
I joined this site because I, like many of you, seek understanding, as well as the ability to help people.
I am a middle aged, married female living in the United States Midwest. I moved around a lot as a kid and was raised by my grandparents, for a while, my God mom for a while, and my mom and step dad for a while.
In 2012 I was diagnosed with Personality Disorder NOS with a mix of Avoidant Personality and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. I was also diagnosed with Social Phobia, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Transient Depression, all resulting from my upbringing. My parents were emotionally and intellectually abusive when they werenât neglectful, and they were also physically abusive toward my brother. Eventually he and I ran away from home when we were about 15.
While he stayed with friends I basically couch surfed for 6 years, it was the lowest point of my life. This was when I was diagnosed with the above conditions and nearly starved. At the worst point I would only eat once a week because the local library had free movie days once a week and they would give me extra popcorn since they knew my situation. But I digress.
I received the diagnosis because I needed a psychological evaluation to get into Job Corps because by this point in my life Iâd given up all hope. I had no self esteem. I had no control, I was so used to my life being run for me. At Job Corps I truly found myself and met my husband, the best man I know.
Over the years I feel I have made great progress dealing with my depression as I very rarely exhibit symptoms anymore. The anxiety is still very much there but I feel like I can wrangle it better, especially since my husband is very supportive of me and helps me through my panic attacks and, when in public, we have an âabortâ signal if it becomes too much for me (Social phobia). If this happens we leave the situation immediately so it doesnât escalate to a panic attack. It doesnât always work but I appreciate that he tries.
Try as I might however, I cannot seem to get a hold of my personality disorder. The Obsessive Compulsive Personality traits make living with myself especially difficult as I suffer from extreme perfectionism and workaholism, and I tend to overthink things and harshly criticize myself, further feeding my anxiety. I hope to find others here with similar experiences with this disorder so I can figure out how to get a handle on it. I donât take anxiety meds and Iâm currently looking for a therapist in my area that my insurance will cover.
If youâre still reading this, thanks for taking the time to get to know me and I look forward to meeting you.