I wish I had some sort of purpose, I’m so tired of my life being work, come home, eat, and sleep. But that’s all their is.
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There is more. Really. I am struggling to find it also, but I truly believe there is more to life. It may not look like we want it to, but we will find it if we just keep going. <3 You do have a purpose and a reason for your existence. A space that only you could fill. I do too. We just have to keep trying to enjoy the small moments. Maybe it will become clear one day that all those small moments were really our purpose.
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I don’t even get those small moments other than just watching shows or movies.
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I know how that feels. I have my comfort shows too. I watch a lot of reruns because they are happy and nothing bad ever happens. Sometimes, I can feel like I found a small moment by helping someone else. Sometimes I just need someone to listen and that is hard to find. I probably don’t have good advice, but I can listen and relate.
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It’s okay I don’t want to feel bad or that I don’t appreciate your help, I just get very hopeless and have a hard time seeing anything good when I’m in this kind of state.
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I understand. I truly am in the same position at times. It’s just nice to know we aren’t alone even when we feel it so strong. And to know that this feeling will pass, and things will look better.
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Yeah that’s true thanks for taking the time to comment.
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I hope you have a great day. I’ll look for your posts in the future!! 
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Thanks I hope you have a great day as well.
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I just get very hopeless and have a hard time seeing anything good when I’m in this kind of state.
Hey friend, have you noticed any thing that helps when you find yourself in this state? It’s a real strength already to be aware of it and not letting it overtake everything in your life. You know yourself well, and that can be a real asset to support yourself when you need it the most.
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Mmm I guess if something makes me genuinely laugh that can help.
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I don’t what to do nothing I do truly brings me joy, I can’t find a purpose for being here, I will never be in a relationship I just purely exist for the benefit of everyone around me.
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If you have been in the habit of existing purely for others, it’s hard to experience joy. There is something to be said for supporting others in their pursuit of happiness, but it is essential to nurture yourself as well. In fact, you as a happy person, are a far more valuable asset to those around you that you are as an unhappy and unfulfilled person.
If you have been existing for the benefit of others, but not yourself, I think there’s a good chance that you have lost touch with your own desires. Do you think it might help to decide to do at least one thing for yourself each day?
There is a subtle difference between finding purpose and choosing it. Some people find purpose as they stumble upon it. Others decide to choose a purpose, and if it doesn’t work out, they decide to choose a different one. I have chosen multiple purposes, and many of them still coexist. I think our overarching purpose is to share love, including sharing it with ourselves.
A primary way of sharing love is through self-expression. And artists shares it through their art. A musician shares it with music. Some people build things, others provide services, etc. Expressing integrity through our work and our actions is a sublime way of sharing love. When I was a kid, I was a janitor. I shared love through doing a damn good job of cleaning toilets.
“Finding” purpose suggests to the mind that it is elusive or somehow lost. “Choosing” purpose changes the entire dynamic.
Take a break. Clear your mind. Do something just for yourself. Then you will be much better prepared to decide what’s next for you.
I don’t really know how to do that I’m never truly able to clear my mind of things.
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It is really hard to clear the mind for any length of time. Even the Dalai Lama admits to having difficulty with it. Mantras were invented so that even when it’s not possible to clear the mind, it can be focused on something simple and benign rather than on chaos.
So, it was a mistake on my part to say “clear the mind,” although I can manage it for short periods of time, which is often enough to interrupt and redirect thoughts. I’m not always able to clear my mind. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night and think about something that happened 30 years ago, then proceed to analyze the event backwards and forwards. Then I proceed to pick apart some other topic it’s not terribly relevant at the moment.
It might be better to talk about calming the mind rather than clearing it. Have you given relaxation techniques or meditation a try?
No I can’t say I really have.