I think this topic will fit in multiple topics but feeling stuck is the general feeling i have, I think.
There are loads of things going on, and maybe it seems tiny but for me every “problem” feels like a wall that closes me in.
I used to have a pretty close friend in highschool which i always went to with how i felt, which was great. But I haven’t spoken to her since I went to college, which has been over a year now. and it breaks me. I am really bad at maintaining connections and now I am scared to ask her to meet up again.
I also have been gender dyshporic for my whole life (Male to female), and i have been taking steps towards transition which was a big step for me and im still glad i took that step but now I got a letter from the instance, which is also the only instance in the Netherlands that you can go to for these kinda things, that there is a waiting list of atleast 2 years. so that means im stuck in this body that i thought i would be able to leave behind as soon as i came out. i will be 20 when i finally can go into the process. Btw, the only ones who know about it are friends online and my parents.
I also feel like everyone seems to have expectations of me.
My parents keep pressuring me to get a job since I will be turning 18 soon and will have to pay taxes.
but I’m scared that i will be in an even worse state if there is going to be another place where I will be deadnamed, where people will address me with the pronounces and name that make me hate myself. But sadly enough they dont seem to understand me.
I also have been doing music for as long as I can remember, and It has helped me. Writing songs and just fighting the strings on my guitar helped me get rid of feelings for short terms, but it seems to help less and less for some reason. But now everyone expect me to peform for them, but im scared to sing and play in front of friends, family, anyone actually. even tho I have had singing lessons for 2 years and my singing coach tells me I have gotten better, I dont see any progression and still have a huge disgust towards my own voice, which has probably also to do with the gender dysphoria. because of that im scared to peform for people but they keep asking me to do so and it just makes me stressed out and scared.
from the 1st of september I will have internship for half a year, full time. and I am scared I will have no social contact with anyone my age.
I mentioned earlier that I have friends online but it still doesnt feel the same.
I feel like everything is moving moving foreward so fast, but I cant keep up, I am stuck and just want to go back, I dont know how to move foreward. I’m just stuck inside multiple walls and dont have the guts to pick up a hammer and break them.
I’m just, lost.
I’m sorry if this whole story doesnt make sense, im not that great with English or words in general.