Im a broken person. Ive been emotionally manipulated for a good portion of my life. Im just tired and want to feel something with a woman. I just want to hear a womans voice talking to me sometimes. Its been a while since I posted on here (had to make a new account, and whole “wall” seems to have had a facelift). Idk , I just need to rant. I reach out to connect with women in ways that probably arn’t the best, but its better than nothing.
I’m 25, I should be doing better than this. But I’m so lonely, Im attractive, smart, articulate, but I just can’t seem to meet people and find a girlfriend, and everyone else around me is getting married. other people talk about sex, I just want to cuddle and kiss, Ive been kissed ONCE in my life. Im so tired and sad and just want someone to give a shit, and talk to me completly open without judgement, and just accept me, vices and all.
Thank you for posting here. Your worth and value is not dependent on a relationship with a woman. It is based on who you are. You are treasured and valued because you were created with great purpose by a God who deeply loves you.
I know it’s hard. It’s so hard when you want friends and you can’t seem to find them. Loneliness is a painful thing. And I’m so sorry that you are going through this.
You are wanted and seen here. Keep talking. You deserve to be heard.
I relate a lot with what you say. I, myself have never been too much of a popular kid growing up- it always felt like my mind was somehow wired differently from everyone around me and it seemed like people either avoided me or disliked me terribly. Then I grew up and understood that I had to follow my career and studies- become successful because I really love what I am doing. However, this did not change much in my personal life. I have one best friend- but she lives across the continent so we see each other once a year. The rest of the time, it still remained very very hard to make friends. I spend my free times in coffee shops, reading by myself, I jog a lot by myself, watch movies, listen to music, shop and generally just live life in my own company. I am neither an ugly troll, nor an overly-attached type of gal. I do have my issues- we all do but overall I do not think I am impossible to love. Yet I am alone. You get the picture.
A while ago, after a very painful break up I made a promise to myself. That when men would tell me that they do not see a future with me (a line which I got a lot after each of my breakups) I decided: you know what? I do see a future with myself. So I bought a ring and I wear it on my right finger hand as if I were married but to myself. As kind of pathetic as that sounds, I kind of cling to this commitment that I have to myself. And there are times when I am happy this way and times when I feel I should put a bullet through my head. Sorry for the Tarantino like movie frame- but I can’t sugarcoat this.
It is hard, I know. There is no promise that you would ever meet that woman you want. But what if it never happens? What are you going to do? To me, it feels unfair to give up in a world where others have terminal diseases and are left with little to live, or others are starving because they have too little to survive to the next day. If you have the bare minimum, a roof over your head, a job and something to eat- your remaining responsability is to commit to yourself and keep on living. Appreciate and love what you have and life as it is. And who knows? Maybe one day in this path of yours, you will bump into the girl of your dreams. Don’t force it, don’t obsess over it. It’s not going to work like that.
Please know that your time WILL come. I love hearing that you know that you’re attractive, smart and articulate. You’re believing truths about yourself which is a fantastic place to begin!
A LOT can happen in a year. I’m 26 years old, so I’m not too far ahead of you in age. Up until a few months ago, I was really frustrated that I just wasn’t finding anyone who was clicking with me. I’m naturally a picky person, and I feel like every time I liked someone, it wasn’t mutual (or vise-versa). Then, out of NOWHERE, I met the girl of my dreams on June 1st of this year. All of that to say, you might be posting the above post now, but in a few months, you could be singing a different tune. Keep your head up! The best is yet to come!
@startingover993 ,
first of all this must suck . i know how it feels i jgot friend zoned acouple months ago… by the way nothing is wrong with you but it may take time to find the right person… just know you are loved no matter what.
I too feel very broken as well, @startingover993 . I had something happen in my life between 2005 and 2009. What that is I’m not sure, but it’s vastly effected me on physical and mental levels. I’m sorry that you have to experience these feelings, that lie to us daily, and remind us of how we aren’t what culture dictates. You’re not alone, I’m there too in several areas. You don’t suffer alone, you’re not lost in the dark. I’m here with you. And all we have to do, is be ourselves, no matter our age, no matter anything else. What’s important is that we be true to ourselves, and know that there are others out there that love us, God included.
You’ll be in my thoughts, hoping you find some peace.
If this post doesn’t speak volume then idk what does! This is literally my life story. I just want someone to give a shit. Well said! Lol unfortunately I don’t have any advice for you because I myself am pretty lonely but I definitely understand your post all too well. Hang in there brother. Love you ~Stylin
I know exactly where you are coming from from a very similar experience of life. You need to socialise in different circles. Just make new friends, both men and women, of all ages. Let things happen naturally. Get out there and you’ll eventually find one of those new friendships turns into a relationship. Just take things slowly and don’t scare people off!
I know how this feels. Seeing basically everyone else around you in some sort of relationship but your still single. Everyone will say “you can be happy without a woman in your life”, “you don’t need a relationship to find happiness”, or “being in relationship doesn’t define who you are”. Yeah that’s true and all but I pretty sure your like me and just want someone to show you love.
You say you’re “broken”, like me you probably want someone to hold you and help you try and fix yourself. You really want some who is gonna give you their heart cause you want to give them yours? (I hope I’m not putting words in your mouth) Just saying that finding some like this, someone you really need, is gonna take some some time to find and time to gain enough trust to each other. So be patient in finding love, be careful, and I wish you the best of luck in finding someone to accept you like you need.
Keep your head up! The best is yet to come!