i work for a place that runs an after school care and holiday program for kids aged 4-12. its winter break here in nz, so holiday program is running this week and next. recently there have been a few staff members leaving for various reasons, which means some of us have needed to take on extra shifts while they get and train new staff. cause i’ve been there the longest my manager (who only started like 3 weeks ago) has been pairing up the new people with me so i can show them what to do, etc. mostly im ok with this, though it is stressful being the main person in charge of the kids and also keeping an eye on the new person.
found out yesterday that the manager has got covid so is now in isolation, then this afternoon another 2 staff members, one new, have also caught it. got a message on the team chat that says we might need to be “a bit more flexible” with our shifts this week and next. i have chronic fatigue syndrome, so im only supposed to work up to 9 hours a week total, so normally i do 3 hours, 3 days a week. during holiday program i tend to do a few extra hours, though by the end of it im pretty much exhausted, and it can take me a couple weeks into the next term to get back to my version of “normal” while i do my regular shifts. 2 days into this week and ive already worked 9 hours. i have another 4.5 hour shift tomorrow, and now being told they might need me again thursday or friday, or both. they are aware of my medical conditions, including the anxiety, and do their best to work things out in a way that doesnt impact me too much, so if they are asking me it means its a last resort and they dont have anyone else who could work. our work is with kids, so they cant just get another new hire, and they have to have at least 2 staff on at all times, 3 if we get bigger numbers of kids. if i dont go in and work the extra shifts they’ll have to shut down for those days. which means a bunch of parents/cargivers needing to find alternate care for their kids, or take time off work, likely unpaid. the company loses a bunch of money, when things are already tight.
im already really tired. i know that sounds pathetic, like a kid whining excuses. tired is my normal. on a good day it feels like im walking around with heavy chains around my shoulders. on a bad day just walking from one end of my flat to the other feels like a marathon, every muscle and joint screaming at me with each step. a mix of anxiety and seasonal athsma makes it feel like i have ropes tied around my lungs. this all sounds like over exaggeration. its not. i can do these extra shifts if i need to. it’s not really a choice anyway. if i said no then id just be throwing guilt ontpo of everything else already running around in my head. ill do it if they cant get anyone else. it’ll be hard but lifes hard so you just keep fighting and stay strong and dont give up and all that stuff.
i have family arriving this weekend. they just kind of announced that they were coming, as a “nice surprise.” i dont like surprises, i like to be able to plan for things and prepare. but they are family so im supposed to be glad they are coming. they arent sleeping here, they are staying at my mums place, but theyll still be coming around at some point. and the kids (my nephew and nieces) will be staying at my place for a few hours sunday night cause they have organised a “girls night out”. im a girl too, but i guess they needed someone to babysit. my house is still a mess cause ive been struggling to keep to the schedule lately, and when i get home from work i am too exhausted to tidy, or cook, or do dishes, or whatever. but i cant let them see my house like this so tomorrow after work ill just have to do it. ill feel better when its tidy anyway. probly. maybe.
i dont know why im typing all this. its all just a mess of words, sorry. i dont know what the point is, its like im on autopilot. it doesnt change whats happening and what i need to do. i have to do the right thing and be the responsible grown up and get things under control. and anyway what doesnt kill you makes you stronger right. all part of being an adult, doing stuff even when its hard. i dont unnderstand why it has to be hard all the time. am i really so pathetic that evry little thing in life feels like another boulder added to my back? im in my early 30’s, i should be better at this by now.