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After years of “I love you always and forever no matter what” I came home from work to an empty house. To this day I don’t know what went wrong. I’ve given up on healing its pointless. I will forever wonder why she left. We had an amazing life. Now I’m a shell of the person she made me want to be. Everyday is a little worse than the day before. This sucks!
Hi Friend,
I am incredibly sorry you are going through a difficult time! All those wonderful memories and promises gone at an instant when she left. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking and confusing that must be for someone as close as she was to break her promises and shatter your heart. You have every right to feel the way you do. It’s okay to not be okay in this situation. I know it may be difficult to piece back all the pieces of your shattered heart. I know it will be difficult to move on. But I want to let you know that I am here for you, I care for you, and I want to see you back on your feet again. This may seem like an insurmountable hurdle, but I believe you can do it. One of the most important things to do at this moment is to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Although you may feel any attempts to rectify how you feel may be hopeless, taking baby steps to get back on your feet may help you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In fact, I am proud of you for doing this by trusting me with this information!
Hope this helps!
@jmac7469 my ex said she loved me and we kissed goodnight at 2000 and 0700 I was the problem with her whole life after 30 years. I finally found out what happened. It’s long but it involves mental illness. That said with how it was sprung on me taught me two things. Don’t ever trust women and women to me now are nothing more than recreational use. It’s funny because you tell them the truth and they all say I can change you. Good luck man, I hope you find the peace I’m looking for too.
First off I just want to say thank you for being open with us here. We appreciate it and don’t take it for granted.
I am so sorry this is something you are going through, I cannot even begging to know how hard this must be, and how painful it must feel.
Although I have not been in this situation, I understand the feeling of wanting to give up. I get the feeling of the work you are putting in feeling pointless. Please know this work you are doing is not pointless, it takes time and work but it adds up. For the pas ten years I have been so miserable, depressed, anxious, and so many times have I thought thing is never going to get better, I am never going to make it to where I want to be.
Recently I have started to see that little things add up, in the beginning it feels like nothing, but one day you will look back and see how far you have come, and that is going to feel so great.
I hope that you continue to keep trying. I believe in you.
Hi, fellow broken heart. I feel your pain. It’s excruciating to live with, it’s hungry, it wants to eat everything in your life, hopes and dreams and willpower.
But. But! BUT!
You are more than your pain. You’re breathing. You’ve got hands that have left a mark on this world. You’re crying. You’re pouring your heart out to strangers on the Internet (thank you for that by the way, that takes real courage). You’re listening to Pearl Jam along with all of us! You’re all these things and so much more.
You’re alive.
I can’t tell you to snap out of your pain and see and feel these things because that’s impossible. Pain envelops, pain comes randomly, pain sticks around. But it’s not all there is, forever. And it does get better. You get stronger the more you fight. Everytime you put one more you put one little step in front of the other, see it for the life-affirming victory it is.
I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope with some time since posting, you have healed some.
Losing a love is hard enough but not knowing why makes it so much harder.
It also makes me sad to see other comments on here lumping women together as an entity. We are not all the same, I promise!
I have similar experiences with men, and I have had a lot of heartbreak and have been single for most of my adult life because I am very careful with my heart! But that doesn’t mean that I treat all men the same, or that I don’t open up and give my heart away. I absolutely do! Because even if that love didn’t last for you and ended in a way you never imagined, it was still a part of you. And as hard as it is to see now, that person was a part of your life and provided you with many happy and joyful moments. Those moments were real and experienced by you. Those moments probably got you through some times that may have been difficult. You probably had hope with your relationship too and that was hope was real too. There is hope for your future! Putting yourself out there is hard but it’s the only way to move forward and find love again. It’s so worth it!
