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As a man, it’s hard to talk about these things. The judgement from people makes you come down even harder on yourself, like it isn’t worth coming forward. I can say that not one that knows me, knows me at all. Put on a facade that I’m well. I’m not. If it weren’t for my dogs, probably wouldn’t be around.
I understand what you mean. I’ve myself been struggling as an adult man. First with substance abuse, and when I got clean I started working out compulsively and I got an eating disorder that later led to bulemia. As a man it was sometimes hard to admit that i had problems that most people connected to teenage girls, not men in their late 20s.
It really helps to talk to someone about these things, and I believe that everyone would benefit to have talking sessions with someone professional. If you’ve haven’t had that chance i hope that you can get it. I was fortunate to get it through the health care system. And when I was 30 I got antidepressants with the right dosage, and it helped me very much.
If this is the first time you reach out about this, then it’s a first step in a positive direction! It can help to just get your feelings out, to put words to them, and get them aknowledged by someone, anyone.
And I also had a dog that was a huge part of my life, and she helped me so much during our years. And when she passed away, it was… Heartbreaking. When that happened I was 26 and clean from my substance abuse. If I hadn’t been I don’t know how I would’ve coped, as that can worsen depression and anxiety by a magnitude of… A lot. But I got through it, and now 5 years later I have a beautiful tatoo for her: her name with carnation flowers around it. And I see her name on my arm everyday and I remember her with love and cherish the time we had together.
I am sorry that you feel like you are not able to talk to anyone about what you are dealing with. I do think that there is a societal stigma regarding men where they are not allowed to express their feelings or emotions because they will be viewed as weak. I hate that men have to go through life feeling like they are forced to navigate the world of emotions alone because it is not socially acceptable for them to talk about their struggles.
Going through hard times or struggles isn’t just a women thing. Mental health also isn’t just a women thing. They are both human things that everyone experiences at multiple points in their lives and it is extremely difficult to navigate those things on your own. You deserve to be able to talk to anyone about what you are dealing with and not receive any judgement for it. I agree with Markus93, that everyone would benefit from talking to a professional and I hope that you look into it. We are also partners with Better Help and they are an online therapy service where you can talk to a licensed therapist from the comfort of your own home.
If you find it difficult speaking to people about your struggles, sometimes even writing them down can be helpful. Just the act of getting those emotions out can feel like a weight being lifted. You shouldn’t have to bottle everything up for other people’s benefit. You are allowed to feel what you feel and be able to express them.
If this is your first time reaching out to us, thank you! I am proud of you for having the courage to speak up about what you are experiencing. Thank you for being vulnerable and trusting us with that. I encourage you to continue to reaching out to us because we will always offer a judgement free space for you to express everything that you are going through. We will always be here to listen and offer you support!