Hi ,
I think my past is finally effecting me. For years and years I carried a secret of sexual abuse and I buried the memory deep so that I was a lot less effected by it. When I met my long time partner it came up a few times and he was amazing at being accepting of how I was with certain things. Eventually, I told him everything in detail and again he was so good and understanding.
I have always had a bad relationship with my mum and I think the two things are linked. However it mostly happened when I was 5 and so I don’t have clear memories of anything anymore.
My best mate went through the same thing with me , with the same people, so I know what happened from some brief conversations with her. But before she moved to where I lived I had something’s happen to me that I really can’t remember clearly.
I have a clear memory of finding a graffic picture of me with the people involved an i angrily ripped it up and got rid of it so I have no evidence.
Is this real? How would I find out?
Worst thing is , my mum let this happen to me as I’m pretty sure she was there , when said photo was taken. Again no way of knowing for sure.
Do I talk to my mum about this ? I haven’t spoken to her in years but she has been trying to connect to me again. I struggle not to blame her, we have never got on and I just don’t feel anything towards her. But for the sake of my sister , I don’t want to feel like this forever.
I asked my partner his thoughts and he thinks I should not blame her for these things that happened and I can’t blame her for something so long ago. But I don’t know.