Recently I got into a new relationship almost two months ago but the longer we are together the more hard conversations me and my gf have with each other. It took me like 7 months out from a bad relationship/breakup to find the courage to reach out to a girl i was interested in.
I knew ahead of time kinda what i was getting into but now that it has been some time i am scared of dating her any longer.
Right now her life is a cocktail of suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, low-self esteem, social anxiety, and stubbornness. All the “normal” things to say to a female mean opposite to her so she takes being called “weird” is a good thing and creative criticism triggers her.
On top of her mental health her physical health is actually slowly killing her and she has developed bad sleeping, eating, and social habits.
I am lost how to even support/help her when she allows people to continue burdening her with their mental health issues and relies on me to fill her back up with love and energy. I have hit a point where i dread hangout with her cause i feel like i will screw up and say something that will “trigger her”…triggering means she completely shuts down verbally, starts sobbing, and then shaking from her anxiety (it slowly increases the worse the anxiety gets to a point where it looks like she is having a seizure) until the fit stops. It is so hard to figure out what triggered her or made her feel insulted so everything i say or text is criticized.
I feel so poisoned, stressed, overwhelmed, drained, and depressed…i had so much hope now i regret this decision