So, I’m a recent graduate of art school. I got my bachelor’s degree in 3D studio art. Right after graduating I moved to europe with my family as a way to get out of the place I’d lived for my whole life and finally experience what else there was in the world before completely going out on my own in the real world. Obviously, I left everything behind to do this. I left the best friends I’ve ever had and I miss them dearly. We talk literally every day though, so that’s been good (thank God for group chats). I left a good support system for the line of work I hope to be in one day. This includes professors, mentors, and even more good friends. Leaving that behind is hard, but not impossible to overcome, just difficult to find new people to help me on my way because of how scared I am of speaking to new people that I don’t know. I left behind a girl who I was dating. She turned out to be absolutely no good for me and ended up draining me way more than lifting me up as I believe partners should do for eachother. I left behind a girl who used to be my best friend in the whole world, but she left me years before… however, she’s never left my heart and mind. I left behind my strange coping mechanism that is a antique volkswagen bus. Having something like that to work on and fix with my own two hands is the biggest reason I’m even remotely ok after losing that best friend almost 3 years ago. It makes me feel like I have at least some control of my little corner of the universe.
Damn, that was a long intro…
Presently I work at an American department store as a cashier during the day and make my art at night. I don’t make much money from my art currently, but it is beyond the best feeling any time I can pass on a piece of my work to someone and they truely appreciate and enjoy it. But, man that day job is killing me. I’m just always drained. Dealing with people every day who just generally suck is so taxing. Also, having to pretend to the world that things are ok is the worst. Internalizing things is obviously not an ok thing to do, but I don’t have my prefferred coping mechanism around to help me out. I’ve been working to create a teaching position for myself at a local arts center, but the budget for it keeps getting pushed around and seems like it will never happen. If I could just get that job set up, I could rid myself of so much undue stress. I’m not really sure what I’m doing with myself career-wise right now and I knkw that’s ok to be unsure of at this stage. I just wish something would come of all the work I’m putting in…
That’s it for my external struggles…
Internally, I have been emotionally bleeding for almost 3 years. I was with a girl who was nothing but perfect. But she left because she had some issues to work out. I inadvertently pushed her even further away because I have some issues that make involuntary changes in my life feel 1000% worse than they should. I didn’t mean to make her go even further from me, but there was nothing I could do once it was done. I’m ok with what happened now. It allowed me to grow as a person and in my professional field. I had to watch her be with someone else (we went to the same school and were in the same field). That sucked, but they’re not together anymore and somehow I’ve found myself being friends with this girl again who used to be the best friend I ever had. There’s hardly been a day, even when I tried dating other people, that I haven’t thought about her. We don’t talk every day, but she’s told me twice now in the few months since we’ve reconnected that she regrets leaving and that I am the best person she’s ever met. But she’s also expressed that she feels it might be too late for us because I’ve moved so far away. I will be coming back to the States in about 2 years. I would do anything to reconnect with her again when I get back. I knew from the first time I saw her that she was the most special person I’d ever meet. Something inside me screams that I have to know her… That I have to know her heart and be the one to help support it.
How I’m dealing with my predicaments…
I’m going to be clearing a space and test firing a kiln this week so that I can start making ceramic work again. I think this will allow me to possibly move forward with a more self sustaining, definitely more emotionally gratifying way to make a living. I’m trying everything to get out of working for another corporarion like the current one I’m at.
As for my helping my heart… I’m calling her tomorrow. I will hear her voice for the first time in over a year. I don’t know what I’m going to say. I want to ask if she’ll wait for me. Two years isn’t that long in the grand scheme and I’ve already waited 3 for us to even be able to speak to eachother again.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading. If you’ve been in a similar situation or just have any kind of advice for a guy who doesn’t really know what to do with himself feel free to drop it for me.
P. S. I blame I, the mighty for breaking down my emotional wall enough to finally share something on this forum.