As the title suggests, I’m really not doing okay. It’s such a long story that would take an extensive amount of time to put a dent in. I have ADHD. Depression grew from that. Started in elementary. I still vividly remember sitting in my room with a pair of scissors to my chest and wanting nothing more than to have the courage to apply enough pressure to them to end my suffering.
I grew up in a large, EXTREMELY religious family. Put the two together and I’m sure you can guess what religion was forced down my throat and ultimately had a major role in ruining my life. Despite all of this and my PTSD that most call an upbringing, I graduated high school, got a good job as a mechanic, found love. After everything I had been through, I finally felt that I was making it. I worked so hard, despite everything, and earned everything I had.
So I bought a motorcycle. Not 3 months into riding, while on my way home from work, an individual decided that talking on her phone while driving was an acceptable reason to ignore a stop sign and t-bone me. Broke my dominant hand and got some lovely road rash. 2 hand surgeries later and I still don’t have full use of it, never will.
Depression, quite literally, got 100x worse. Understand that I’m the person you would never expect to be suffering in this way. In person, I’m the most up-beat, witty, humorous person you could hope to meet. Behind closed doors, it’s bad. I despise feeling this way and I don’t ever want to see anyone feel the way I do. Through my brand of humor, I feel like I genuinely make people laugh.
Anyway, after my motorcycle accident, things went downhill faster than I could comprehend. My girlfriend left me because I pushed her away as I didn’t want, and still don’t want, anyone to know what I’m going through. I refuse to be branded as the “attention seeker” or any of the various other cliches people are accused of due to their declining mental health. The biggest reason though, and this is where the different personalities come in, is I don’t want people to look at me differently. Now you can play the words “no one will look at you differently” through my ears for the rest of my life, the fact is, it’s not true. I’ve seen it. It’s not in a bad way but it’s noticeable. You watch what you say a little more, you act and behave just a little bit differently, I see all of it. And I do it too, and I hate that I do. I’m a damn hypocrite for it.
My ADHD sometimes sends me off in other directions, I apologize for that.
After my girlfriend left me, at my all-time lowest point, I started school. I was in physiotherapy for my hand 3x a week, which ended up not doing a damn thing for me. I was drinking A LOT. I was off work on injury leave and started school at their request. I was still in physiotherapy 3x a week and between that, my increasing drinking problem, girlfriend leaving, and other variables, it was quite literally impossible to focus on things like studying. I was crying myself to sleep every single night. I ended up failing the course by 2%. As a result, I was fired from my job, just another reason to live, gone. Words can’t describe the pain I was in.
When I talk about my depression, I’m not talking about feeling like “man my life sucks, why can’t I catch a break?” I’m talking about “what the fuck did I do wrong to deserve this?! I have absolutely zero interest in living and if it were easier, I’d be gone already!” I’ve never actually attempted it though. There has been multiple times I’ve been in my car with a bottle of whiskey and an array of pills I have acquired which would definitely end my suffering. I don’t leave things to chance. I wasn’t about to wake up groggy in some hospital. I knew what I was doing. And honestly I wish every damn day, that I would have grown a pair and done what I set out to do.
Anyone that says “I’m glad you didn’t, your family would be devastated!” Fuck my family. Every last individual that is a part of it, I absolutely fucking hate them. Anyone that mentions my friends…that one is easy, I don’t have any.
Look, I do not have a damn clue as to what I’m looking for on here or why I even made this account. Maybe there is a tiny bit of relief in telling others a bit of what I am going through in an anonymous manner?! And when I say a tiny bit…those events happened in 2014 to 2017. It’s gotten worse simce then.
No one in my life will ever see the demons behind my eyes. I’m on a couple different antidepressants and I have ADHD medication for when it gets bad. I gave up on that one though. I like the chaos it brings and how much I over think things to the point I can predict just about every possible outcome to a given situation.
After reading everything I just wrote, I should probably delete it. I’m not going to though. Felt good to type out. I even edited a couple parts to the exact truth. I’ve been lying to myself for so long I started to believe it.
I guess the point of it all is that I’m drowning. I do not see a light at the end of this tunnel and honestly, I don’t want to anymore. I just want it all to be over and I do not have a damn clue as to what to do. This life has nothing to offer me and I am finished with it. I have felt this way for years, the pills numb it but the thoughts are always there.
This is the tip of the iceberg. I’m 25 years old, ready and willing to die. I have no reason not to, yet I’m still here.