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From rogerthatphotos: If I can find ways to lessen stress I feel my relationships will improve. I sometimes let it turn into anger and lead into negative/ destructive action which I know I probably look and act foolish when I’m angry and then just don’t talk to anyone. I’d love to be more cheerful and approachable.
Hello, thank you for being so honest. It sounds like you really want to make an effort to improve on this aspect and I think that’s really brave of you. I think it would be important to know where the stress is coming from. That can help you identify the areas that you can start to work on to help reduce the stress. Also, don’t be so hard on yourself. Sometimes the way we express stress is not so healthy but it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It’s a process and it takes time to manage and work on. Are you able to identify some of the things that could be causing you stress?
Stress can really do a number on us when it comes to managing relationships can’t it. And when the stress level is high and the frustration is up there, it can be really easy to let loose on those right around us. I fully hear you on that friend. Been there. Done that. And yeah, I can feel like the fool once my anger burns off and now I’m all having to apologize for being an ass.
I totally agree that keeping the stress under control is huge. And deciding which stressors are the ones making the most trouble and then figuring out how to manage them is huge. I had to learn how to let go of things I couldn’t control, and that was hard. But I definitely have more peace this way. And then taking time for me and relaxing and doing some self care really helps too. Yeah, I hear you on all of this.
Hello friend, yeah, stress can cause a lot of unwanted emotions and triggers. Loosing control of our emotions isn’t fun for anyone and causes negative emotions in ourselves for acting out. I feel like if we can get down to the bottom of why we’re stressed, that can really help. I have uncontrolled anger (having bpd) and I’m at the point where when I start to get angry, I ask myself what is making me feel that way. Usually, by the time I think about it, that anger goes away. Something you could try maybe, but figuring out what is stressing you out would be good. Maybe you could talk to a therapist or something of that nature. Take care!
@heartsupport it’s mostly just from having to be so alone and doing everything myself. It makes me a moody person. I’m doing ok overall but I’ll work on finding ways to relieve stress. Getting back to exercising will definitely help
Hey, thank you for sharing that here!
That’s such a tough realization to experience, but it makes way for so much growth.
Rooting for you, and looking forward to hearing from you again!
Hi there, thank you for sharing with us and for the follow-up. Exercise is a wonderful way to relieve stress and I’m so glad to hear you’re looking into options that will work for you! Self-improvement isn’t easy, but it can have a massive impact so I’m glad that you’re starting to figure out how to help yourself, and am impressed by your understanding of what you need.
It’s also understandable that you’d be frustrated and stressed. It’s tough to be lonely and I feel for you. I know how easy it is to become upset over little things when other emotions (e.g., loneliness) are instigating in the background.
Thank you so much for sharing and for trusting us with this. You’re invited anytime to continue chatting with us and can find us here: forum.heartsupport.com
Hey I love this! Being aware of these emotions and how they impact you and others in your life is half the battle. You’re already half way there and you’ve got me feeling inspired! I learned (for me anyway) that positivity is a choice and a mindset that I need to choose every day. I’ve gotten away from that recently and I think it’s time to bring it back for good. Keep up the good work on your growth journey and never let that growth mindset get away from you <3