Haven’t done this in a while

[Luca]

I haven’t posted anything on heart support in almost a year. There’s been a lot.

Since the last time I was here I’ve overcome a nicotine addiction, and now I only use any every few months when I happen to see a friend. I’ve gotten to the point that I don’t crave nicotine anymore, but with a friend once in a while the buzz is still fun.

I started dating a guy in long distance and he’s the love of my life, he’s amazing to me. Since I started talking to him I’ve been sh clean too, and I’m eating 2-3 times a day like I should be.

I turned 20.

I’m getting ready to move out of my childhood home i currently share with my sister, and move in with my parents in Georgia so i can can save up some more money the next couple years, before my boyfriend and i plan to get a place in California where he is.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I had a heart monitor, had a heart echo too. Just a lot of big stuff I didn’t think I’d deal with until older, if ever.

That’s the short list but not everything is important here… In all honesty I’m doing good tho. There’s just one thing I’m freaking about.

My parents don’t know about my boyfriend yet. We wanted to be able to meet and spend time together before we made things official or told our families, especially with the long distance we didn’t wanna make a big deal before we knew how it would go. That being said I knew when I went to meet him for the first time nothing bad would happen to me, the worst would’ve been be coming home without a boyfriend. Ive been to see him twice now, and my parents think I’ve been gone on trips with friends. I know they’ll love him, and he’s planning on visiting me after I move to meet them. And I’m meeting his parents next when I visit in January. It’s a weird situation but we’ve both been in the same page about our families from the start. But now it’s time to tell them and I’m not quite sure how to bring it up. I know my lying is going to hurt them, but I want them to understand that I was smart about everything and I trusted him. I do trust him. I just don’t know how to tell them that I haven’t been completely truthful about my trips everything i told them about from the trips is true, the who I was with is just different. They visit in 3 weeks so I have till then to figure it out.

Over all, I’m heather than I’ve been in years mentally, and I’m learning how to deal with what my body throws me

[Nerudamann]

Hey there! First of all, I’d like to commend you on overcoming your nicotine addiction. Once every now and then is fine and healthy, and shows that you have control of it, which is the hardest part of any addiction!

It sounds like you feel like you’re in a safe and comfortable place with your boyfriend, and it sounds like you have been practical about the realities of a long-distance relationship. I’ve done one before as well, and they’re tough!

I don’t if you have already, but you could maybe bounce this off of your sister since she’ll be familiar with your family dynamic.

Personally, I think that if you come clean about it and don’t try to push responsibility around they’ll likely be very receptive. Sure, they’re probably be hurt about the lying, but family bonds are strong.

Now, practically speaking, the conversation may not go well and you have to be prepared for that. It’s very easy for us to respond to anger with anger. So just something to be mindful of.

This might sound weird, but with the proliferation of AI apps out there now, there might be one that allows you to role play out the scenario of talking to your parents.

Hope this helps!