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@heartsupport I have fallen in love being broken ever since my wife passed away 3 months ago. I lost my everything, I just listen to music similar to this as it brings me some relevance. Comfort in chaos.
I am so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you. The pain of losing the one you planned on spending your life with must feel insurmountable. It is like building your dream house on a rock solid foundation, only for it to crumble and bring your house (and all future plans) down with it in a traumatic moment. All that you built seems dashed from your hands and you are left staring at the rubble wondering how you will ever find the ability to piece it all back together.
Within the destruction, there is hope. What you had envisioned for your future may not be possible, but the way that she changed your life will always be there. You will always remember the late nights, early mornings, and incredible memories formed while building this metaphorical dream house. You built a life together, and while you may not have more time to spend with her- her imprint will always remain. The way she shaped you and helped you become a better person will never fade. You will always carry her with you in your actions, thoughts, and ways that you brighten the days of those around you, just as she brightened yours.
The memories don’t make the loss easy, but they do mean that she is not completely gone. Her legacy remains in the hearts of every person she touched while she was still here. I pray that through this pain you are able to still find joy and love within the memories of your wife. Use music to cope and let it bring out those emotions deep within you. Allow the catharsis to overwhelm you and let your feelings run wild. Let your favorite artists tell you about how they grieve the same and take solace in the fact that you are not alone in your hardship. You are so loved, so cared for, and you truly matter more than words can express.
Thank you for bearing your heart to us. We care about you so much and are always here if you need to talk more or if you just need a listening ear. You are loved so much more than you could ever know. Holdfast- we believe in you.
I’m sure you are experiencing overwhelming numbness–you may feel like you could never overcome the numbness and be truly yourself again. My heart is devastated for you.
I wish that I could just sit and mourn with you, friend. I want to really encourage you to give yourself time and space to mourn properly. Our fast-pace, overly-stimulated society seriously discourages and hampers our attempts of experiencing our emotions fully and deeply, but thoroughly honoring her legacy and deeply appreciating all that she meant to you happens most effectively through properly mourning and working through your emotions.
My words fall utterly short of how much my heart hurts for you. Thank you so much for sharing your hurt with us. Please feel free to continue to reach out for support whenever you are in need.