There’s nothing wrong with being “clingy”. Some people need other people around them more than others, and some people like “clingy” friends who express themselves freely and make it clear that you enjoy their company. Enjoying your friends attention is not a bad thing and there’s lots of people out there who appreaciate it. It becomes a problem tho if you’re not able to be by yourself at all.
Finding your happiness is a long journey, and depending on who you ask, many say we as humans cant actually find it. That no matter what we have, we will always come up with something new that we want, something we still feel like we’re missing. Like if I only get this one more thing or do this and learn this, then I’ll be happy. But it very rarely works like that. Finding happiness is learning to appreaciate the thing you do have in this very moment. Kind of mindfulness I guess.
Also, stretching yourself thin by helping others around you and making sure they’re happy while ignoring your own feelings and struggles is not going to help. Being able to help others is great and it makes us feel better about ourselves, but we cant put others in front of ourselves. You cant carry someone else’s struggles while ignoring your own. Please, please put yourself first. Figure out where these feelings of being lonely and a burden are coming from. Did someone else make you feel like that? Are you not happy with person you are? You need to find the source of those feelings to be able to fix them.
Learning to be by yourself is important. It’s really difficult, but it’s something worth working on. Because the sad truth in life is, alone is something you will be quite a lot. There wont be someone physically with you 24/7 for the rest of your life. And if you cant be by yourself and get horrible thoughts every time, it’s gonna get exhausting and rough. Becoming comfortable enough with yourself to say “I’m okay without other people’s validation, I can validate and accept myself” is worth working for.
Sending you lots and lots of love. Hold fast friend <3