When I feel stressed, it feels like my body is in power saving mode. Overheated, burnt, and dead while it feels like I’m in the middle of dying. Panic mode in slow motion. Everyone and everything is burning alive while I have the pace of a sloth, slowly watching my arms melt away in front of my eyes. Nothing but deadpan expression, numbed away after countless tears. I just shut down and go silent.
I just got demoted from a job I actually liked because I wasn’t as experienced as they thought. Neither were others, I could tell, but they were there a lot longer than me so of course it makes more sense to build up who you already have, right? I could already tell that’s what they were doing when they cut my hours the first time.
I was a cook and manager for a local place. Lower pay than my last job and finances had to be cut tight and it was a risk I was willing to take because there’s were better opportunities and a much nicer environment than the last corporate cooking manager job I had.
Because of their high expectations, training felt rushed and they went after me for every mistake I made, despite those who have been there longer making those mistakes and it’s not so drastic.
I still kept going regardless. “I need to struggle. Its necessary to get better”. Nope, not better. Pay now is not livable. I have to leave and I’m afraid. My brother takes care of finances at home and he was supportive in my decisions to build up on something new just for it to crash because I wasn’t good enough.
I don’t want another job like my last one. And I’m not looking forward to a job like my current one with high expectations over my head and getting chewed out for tiny mistakes.
I don’t even want much…I’m not working for my passions, nothing about this place aligns with my personal goals. I work myself to the bone and I have all these burns on my skin just to be essentially booted out. Let’s say I stay there, how shameful is it to go from manager to just a cook working there for like 2-5 hours 3 days a week? i can’t afford that and that’s a slap in the face.
I feel like I know what I have to do it’s just scary because of past experiences. You never know what you’re gonna get from a new job. I feel like I have to keep doing this manager thing because I shouldn’t go lower and keep reaching high because we need the money and it’s not like I’m good enough about things I actually care about.
I have no education other than high school and my passion is art, one thing I’m unfortunately shit at and cannot make a living from it. While all at the same time, I’ll work somewhere that burns me out and I have barely any time to focus on that passion.
I know I’m not the only one who has gone though something like this and plenty of people are going through worse, it’s why I really never post here anymore. I feel like a broken record and others deserve to be heard. Thoughts of ending my life keep coming back even though I know I won’t follow through.
I’m being very negative so I figured I’d put a trigger warning just in case.
Sometimes it really feels like none of this is worth it. I’m not good enough, never have been, and everything scares me. I hate it all. I’m sorry.