Hi everyone. This is my first post to any kind of forum like this. So bear with me - I am nervous and anxious. I hope I am not judged. And apologies for the wall of text. I’ll do my best to have it make sense.
Summary: I am overwhelmed with emotion: fear, anxiety, guilt, regret, shame. I don’t know how to handle it all. I am traumatized by all this. I see my normal therapist twice a week as well as an anger management therapist weekly. It doesn’t feel enough. I don’t know what to do.
I’m not sure where to begin.
I guess first some background.
About a month ago, March 5th, was a day that has changed my life forever.
This night, I spanked my daughter during a bad tantrum of hers. I have done this in the past with my kids. However this time it left some kind of mark (I never actually saw it). Later that night, I had deep regret and suicidal thoughts, which never had any true intentions or plan. The next day, working with my wife and my therapist, I voluntarily signed a 201 form to get psychiatric help. I was in the hospital for 4 days. I now stay with my mother.
I was on 4 different psychiatric medications at the time: Abilify, Dexedrine, Lithium, and Pristiq. My doctor in the hospital gave me a diagnosis of Medication-Induced Mood Disorder - basically too much stimulation, he thought. He pulled me off all my medications. I left with 2 new ones: Hydroxyzine for anxiety, and Trazodone for sleep. I have also started Lexapro 2 weeks ago - which has contributed to my anxiety.
Since this, my wife filed a PFA against me for the benefit of my 2 children (twins). I am told this was essentially to protect the children from being taken away from us. A CPS (child protective services) case was opened, as well as a separate police investigation. To date, I have not heard from nor spoken to either of these groups. They have already interviewed my wife and children, however.
About 3 weeks after the initial PFA was filed, my wife and I and our lawyers came to an mutual agreement for me to be able to have supervised visits with my children at our house or other places, speak with my wife, follow up with recommended health providers and treatment, and basically follow the rules of the PFA. It was extended for 90 days, or less if my wife chooses to drop it.
Her and I are on relatively fine terms now. We communicate daily. I also speak to my kids every day, along with visits when we can all coordinate.
My current struggle:
As I mentioned, and as you can see, I am dealing with so much right now. My anxiety is through the roof. I worry and fear everything. Fear of the unknown and what might happen, fear of failure, fear of losing my family, fear of making wrong choices and decisions, fear of my own emotions. When I do see my kids/family, I’m constantly on edge, worried and hyper-focused on how I am behaving so as not to fall backwards into old ways.
My biggest fear and worry is the CPS case & police investigation. It has been nearly a month since this has all happened, so I’m not sure when or if I will hear from either of these. I’m not sure how quick or slow these things move. I have a call scheduled with my lawyer this coming Friday to discuss both of these, so I am hoping it will set my mind a little at ease.
I’m not really sure what I am asking for here or what I am looking for. Maybe just a place to vent all this. Wondering if anyone will really read this and listen.
I just need help.