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I boarder on the tip of losing everything all day. I use alcohol to try and deal. I have my wife who can’t work, 2 teenagers that need. I hate my life
Hello and thanks for sharing!
I can’t help but feel a helpless/hopeless feeling when I read your post. If that is how you feel, I can certainly relate! Both of those things have been a big part of my mental health “roller coaster” since my son was born 6 yrs ago! If I may, a quick story might at least make you feel like you’re not alone in that feeling!
The night of his birth, something flipped in me that was unexpected and has ultimately led me here trying to reach out and help you! 
I reached out to a therapist for help, and that changed my life! She and I went through an interesting exercise regarding this topic. I initially told her I was feeling angry, and like my short temper was coming back now (I’m mid-40’s now) that I worked SO hard as a teenager to correct. She handed me a piece of paper with a bunch of different emotions on it, asking me to tell her which ones I have been feeling since the birth of my son. I started reading out loud the ones that I had been feeling, but never could put a word to them. Before I knew it, I had rattled off 18 different emotions, and I ended by saying “…yeah, that’s about it.”
She knew my sense of humor at this point, so she joked with me that “…that’s about it…” seems to minimize a list of 18 things! haha. Anyway, she then showed me that same list, but it was superimposed on an iceberg where all those things were underneath the water, and what was on the top of it? “Anger”. It seems so simple to think back to it, but it was such a powerful, kinda jolt that opened my eyes and started my journey toward acknowledging, addressing, and healing those emotions.
I tell you that to hopefully share that you are not alone in feeling that helplessness, loneliness, and really feeling a responsibility to carry the burden for your entire family. You are not “wrong” in any way for feeling upset or angry about it, for even feeling resentment sometimes. You are a human and you are doing your best with everything on your plate! Please give yourself grace and be kind to yourself! If you have any hesitation about seeking help from a mental health professional, I can tell you it’s been literally life-changing for me and I hope you could find the same if you choose to reach out!
Hang in there, you’re doing great!!
I’m a father of 3 young kids (5, 3, and 1, with a 4th on the way). First off, you are not alone. Even at what is arguably the easiest stage of life to parent children, I have days where I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing or that I’m failing as a dad and a husband. But I know that at the end of the day, what matters most is being there for my wife and my kids, loving them unconditionally. I don’t know if you’re a religious person at all, but my faith is 100% what gets me through the hardest times. I will be praying for you. Please know that reaching out for help doesn’t make you weak. You are stronger than you know!
Hey there! I am so sorry you are having a rough time. You are not alone! I know it’s hard to hear words like that and know if anyone means it, and I know there are still times when you are physically alone, but you are not!
I am also living in a state of constantly teetering on the edge of full collapse. Ever since COVID, my life has just been falling apart - I got cancer, I was living in a moldy house, I had a partner with severe mental illness and I was also homeless for a while. I could have drown so many times if I had given up. I would have drown if I ever really sat down and thought about. I would have drown if I turned to outside support like drugs or alcohol. But instead, I kept focused on positive things. I focused on filling my cup … With music, with helping others, and with still making sure that I gave live and attention to my kids, my family, my friends. I kept doing this over and over and just never looked down. This is what “faking it until you make it” really means and that is what we have to do sometimes to and for ourselves. i beat cancer, got my teenage kids through some hard years of
school (autistic teen nonetheless!) and I have started to get my life together again. Still hanging on the edge! Keep your head high, keep your focus on the positive … You have a wife, you have kids, and a job! Keep them and keep going!