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I don’t know what to do anymore and I’m scared

This pandemic is awful. I know others are suffering as well, but I don’t know what else to do.

My husband is the only one that works and I stay at home to care for our child.

His hours got drastically cut, and we can’t afford much of anything anymore. Can’t buy food or diapers. I’m already on WIC for my child. We don’t meet the cut for food stamps. Our bills outweigh his paycheck. I had to stop my therapy and medication just to help with finances. We have to get payday loans just to have money for groceries, but still end up in the negative.

I’m stressed out and I don’t know what to do. Am I missing something? Is there something I can do to help him, but yet stay at home (no MLM’s)?

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Hey @Lucipurr,

Thank you so much for sharing and being here. This pandemic is indeed awful. My heart goes out to you, and I’m really sorry to hear about how the situation is affecting your husband’s work, but also just your life in general.

I really want to acknowledge the tough decisions you are facing and the help you provide to your family to keep your head above water. Really. I spent too many years having to chose between healthcare, food or just basic needs, and I wish no one would have to experience that. I don’t think you’re missing anything, but there might be some resources in your living area that you could check on (public services? nonprofits organizations? (…))

Do you live in US? I’m not sure I could be of a great help, from a practical standpoint, as I’m living in Belgium. But knowing where you are might be helpful to anyone reading this and willing to help you find the right resources. You are not alone. :hrtlegolove:

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@Lucipurr I’m so sorry to hear about the spot you’re in. It breaks my heart to hear that you had to stop therapy and medications. Financial stress is a big burden to bear for your family, especially right now with all the uncertainty going on right now :broken_heart:

One thing I found out this year is that unemployment is sometimes possible for reduced hours so that may be worth looking into to see if your husband would qualify. In terms of ways to make some money at home, we survived last year by selling a lot of our stuff to make ends meet. Tables, lamps, kitchen gadgets, clothes, etc. We sold a LOT of things in the house but it all added up and helped us scrape by and turns out we don’t even miss not having a kitchen table. I don’t know what your friend and family relationships are like but if you haven’t already reached out for support, that may be fruitful. A friend of mine was able to make her car payment by asking friends to chip in and cover it. Our city has some pooled funds run by local groups as well to help cover costs for people (all money donated). I don’t know what the process is to receive from them, just throwing it out there in case you’re able to find something similar where you live.

You will get through this. It’s really freaking difficult and scary right now, but you will see the other end of it. Even if we can only help lend emotional support in the time you aren’t able to get therapy, we are here for you. We care about you :yellow_heart:

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