Hello everyone, just here to ask a question or seek out advice!!
I’ve been clean for around 6 months now, and ive been fantasizing about it again, but I genuinely cant tell if i want to relapse or not. i think of selfharm and wish i could do it like how someone smokes cigarettes, some places offer smoke breaks because of how normal nicotine addiction is, but people dont treat it the same way as selfharm (which is understandable) but i sorta wish it was? like if it just isnt a big deal and i could cut whenever i want just how someone steps outside and lights a cigarette, maybe whenever they crave it, but maybe 15 times a day. either way i wish i could have sh like that instead of it being a big deal, like it signifies that im actively not doing well, and i wouldnt hurt myself if i was well.
when I do it, it feels exactly how i want it to and also nothing how i want it to. I want all the “good” from it without the bad. Its like I always expect it to turn out different.
Idk how to get over this though, how to clock myself and realize it wont be like how i want, itll never be how i want. I also have no clue why i feel like this or what to call it? Am i aestheticizing my own sh even though i know the reality?? I have no clue. its sort of a new struggle as well. Ive never been one to casually selfharm, i go months or years and then relapse and cold turkey it again after a little while. I wish it was different, like a habit rather than addiction.
I also hear that you should try to recognize why you’re having urges, but i genuinely dont know. I see a pattern in my relapses but all of it is emotional, i dont know how to just find the reason and fix it, yk?
I just feel so tired recently, that mental fatigue where you dont want to get out of bed or move or speak? everything takes so much energy irl. its so much easier to just type, like i can express every positive thing im feeling without having to emote physically or pitch my voice a certain way, if my friend says something funny i can express that it was funny without actually having to change my face or pretend yk?? its so much easier to exist if im not acting out how i feel all of the time.
anyways that rambly bit’s not really relevant! thx for reading this if u made it down this far, appreciate it so much bye bye <3