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I lost my wife a week ago in age of 37(a heavy way of processing lays ahead of me). The song was the first one that grab my anger and my despair. There was a moment I understood the song 100%. The world just sucks when angle deserve to die. There is no justification by God or someone else. Just cruelty.
I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. It’s unfair that you had to lose the person you love at such a young age. It’s important for us all to process our emotions during times of difficulty and grief, and music can be a good gateway to dealing with and processing how we feel. I’m glad this song has helped you to do that, it is definitely a good song for processing anger, frustration, and hurt.
I want you to know that you are cared for and that there is hope to move forward. Give yourself time to grieve and rest. Stay close to family and friends who will encourage you to heal. Your feelings are valid and important to recognize and process. When the time is right and you feel ready, you can always step out to do things you enjoy or try new things. But it’s okay to take your time to process how you’re feeling now. We can always find hope if we are willing to look for it.
Also, remember that God cares about your grieving. He also grieved when He watched His son Jesus die unjustly. But God made good come from it, and He can make good come from your difficult situation as well. I’m praying for you, hang in there!
Hi Friend,
I’m terribly sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard it is to come terms with the loss of a spouse. Your feeling are valid. Things seem so unfair when we lose a loved one, especially if that person was so pure and so good. It doesn’t make any sense because why them? Why take them? When, as crappy as it sounds to type out loud, there are far worse people in this world that could have gone, so why do they get to keep living, keep doing evil and causing harm, when someone so good, that brought positivity, and love, and joy to others has to die. And questions like that can really stir up an anger within us that stems completely from the amount of pain we have in our hearts. Having to carry on in life and figure out how to adjust to the loss of a spouse, the daily connections, the support, the comfort, everything that you gave each other being taken away - with the daily, constant reminders that they are no longer here - it is cruelty. It is a cruelty that we wish one no one and yet one that every person experiences. I hope that as you work through this time in your life that you have others around you that can help to support you and uplift you and be a light for you in dark times. That they will help to pull you out of sadness.
You do have a heavy and long road of processing ahead of you, BUT, I hope and believe that one step at a time, you will reach the end of that road and will be in a better place emotionally, and mentally. I hope that you continue to carry your wife with you in your heart and allow her to live on through your memories, and that you can relive those memories with joy, and smiles, and laughter - knowing that even in spirit she is still bringing you the positivity of an angel - that she is still your angel. 