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I love your breakdown of the lyrics. Just over a week ago, my wife of almost 10 years asked for a divorce because in her words, she wanted to have fun and she’s seen how her depression brought her down, she didn’t want mine to bring her down. I supported her for almost years though numerous phases of depression, anxiety, suicide attempts… Yet when I finally realized I was suffering from depression myself, there was nothing there for me. It was soul crushing. The years I tried to give everything I could then to get no help when I needed it most.
Thanks, for expressing your concerns! Mental health issues can be exhausting for someone to live through each day. It’s good for you to communicate with your wife about the issues that you guys have going through many years. @PlatformReply I agree that it’s important to take care of yourself before others. Did you explain your wife about suffering depression too? Depression is hard for others to battle because I used to have it too. I have numerous of mental health issues and keep telling myself to remain positive. Just think of your mental health issues like a wall blocking you to pass through. No one likes to be block by something to go through. Do I expect you to be happy 24/7? No!!! You are going to have good and bad days.
I recommend to be really brutal honest on how you feel with her mental health issues. You can’t always depend on your loved one to help with your depression and anxiety. I don’t want anybody closed to me be more stressful with my mental health issues. People have a outside life and need to take care of themselves. It’s okay to vent others but you need to remember on how your words and actions affect someone’s mental health. Don’t let mental health issues impact her and your marriage. I personally don’t know if she is seeing a therapist for mental health issues. If your wife did divorce you, she can’t be in another relationship if she doesn’t improve her mental health. I hope you & your wife able to fight through this difficult challenge.
@@HeartSupport I reread my original comment and it’s almost unreadable. She suffered depression all throughout our marriage and I always supported her. After all those years, I finally needed support from her and there was none. She left to start fucking my best friend instead the same day she asked for the divorce. Needless to say, there’s no marriage to save, just lives to salvage and rebuild. On the rebuilding, it’s rough. Some days are harder than others. The meds help, won’t lie. Progress is being made though. Lives are being rebuilt. I won’t let this break me.
Wow, friend, my heart goes out to you. It is so hard to be in this position of pouring your heart out and giving everything you have to the very person you love, then being told that as they are doing better and you need them now, they choose to move into a different direction than yours. It feels like somehow you don’t have the right to go yourself through a rough time. That you would be at fault for having similar needs she had previously. It’s heartbreaking to feel like the care and love for someone isn’t reciprocated. It is especially during those challenging times that we hope to rely on the people closest to us. The ones we’ve learn to trust with ourselves. Losing them during such a crucial time feels like hitting the nail on the coffin.
It is completely understandable to have expected that, during your own dark times, your wife would have been by your side like you were for her. Just because that’s how marriage should be - partnering through the good and the bad seasons of life together, not side by side. I’m sorry this has been your experience, friend. It’s absolutely heart-shattering to be abandoned that way. I hope you can keep in mind that your struggles are not a fault, and that her decisions are only hers. It certainly doesn’t erase the pain and heartbreak… but through all of this you are absolutely worth being supported, cared for, and loved. May the meds keep helping, and may you seek all the support you need. We’re in this with you.
Just love yourself, you deserve to love and value yourself and care for YOU now.