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Belongs to: Therapist reacts to The Tale of Jenny and Screech by Ren
I’m angry. I was abused by my dad all my life and my entire family, friends, and teachers knew and didn’t do anything to help me. Just told me to keep my head down and get out. But I got in a DV relationship in college because I thought that was love. My family failed me and blame me for it
Now I have complex PTSD and am on my 14th counselor bc they can’t find one that can help…
I’m really sorry to hear what you’ve been through, I can’t imagine how awful that must have been to experience. Especially from the people who were supposed to love you. I can understand why you’re angry. You deserved love, support, and protection from your family, and it’s heartbreaking that they didn’t give that to you. I’ve been through childhood abuse myself at the hands of my father, and the impact it leaves behind can be so hard to navigate.
What you went through in that DV relationship wasn’t your fault. You were conditioned to believe that’s what love looks like because of the environment you grew up in. It’s not fair that the people around you failed you, but it’s also not too late to take your life back. I know it’s not easy, but I just want to remind you that you’re not alone, and healing is possible. There are people in this world who can and will help you discover the beauty within yourself. Hiding ourselves, and isolation may feel like protection, but we are also holding ourselves back from all of the amazing things this world has to offer. All it takes a little help, and it is out there. I wish you the best.
I am so sorry you have had to go through these experiences and are struggling with the aftermath now. The people who were supposed to protect and love you did just the opposite and let you down. I need you to know that no matter what your family says, none of it, absolutely NONE of it was your fault!! You did and still do deserve all the love, support and protection that family is supposed to give you. I know at times it can feel like you are alone in this and no one seems to be able to help. However I need you to know that you are not beyond help! I understand what you feel like because my brother abused me and my family didn’t do anything to help me either and it caused so much pain. But over the years I learned that this does not define me and most importantly I found people who are my “found family” as I call them who give me the support and love I was looking for all my life. I am saying this to encourage you to keep going - there are people out there that see you and love you and are rooting for you, I am one of them! We as a community all believe in you! Keep going, friend. I can’t wait for you to see how beautiful your life can be.