So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months at this point.
I told him a while ago that it would be nice if we could spend Christmas and new year’s eve together and he said that would be nice. He actually invited me a while back to spending Christmas at his family and it made me really happy.
Today we were visiting my sister for her birthday and she asked us if we already made plans for New years eve, just smalltalk. We said no and afterwards I told my boyfriend that i would like to spend new year’s eve with him and he said that he wants to spend it with a friend of his.
That made me upset and i told him so. There are a few days in a year where I would rather spend them with my SO and not with a friend and new year’s eve is one of those.
I also asked him why I couldn’t tag along and he said that it wouldn’t feel right since I don’t know any of them which also irks me a little, i haven’t really met any of his friends.
All of this made me really upset and i was on the urge of crying because of it. The discussion went on for a bit and he decided that he would spend new year’s eve with me if I want it so badly. He’s also gonna ask his friend if it’s ok if I tag along and if not he’s gonna spend it with me alone. It made me happy that he decided that.
At the same time though i feel pretty bad about the whole situation. I don’t want to force him to spend time with me and it kinda feels as if I’m doing that. I actually told him so and he said that me feeling bad about it is not something he can help me with.
The other friends of his who are hosting a house party also take their girlfriends with them so it’s not like it’s out of the ordinary.
Am i making too much of a fuss about it? Is it bad that i want to spend time with him on a day that is special to me?