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I need some help, I’m glad people like you are out there. My therapist stopped listening to me and decided to make me call her when I need to talk but I’m no good at it. I hope I can find someone who can put up with me.
I’m sorry to hear that; that sounds like a bad therapist. Good communication and active listening are a cornerstone of therapy on both sides. When either party is not listening, in this case, sounds like your therapist, it makes it hard to open up and talk about your problems. Even when your therapist is a good therapist, talking still isn’t for everyone; it takes practice. If you want to try, there are alternative types of therapy available that aren’t the typical therapy session you think of. And don’t beat yourself up about your therapist not listening to you; it’s not your fault. Someone out there will listen to you: a therapist, mental health counselor, or psychologist. You just need to find the right match.
It sucks feeling ignored and pushed to the side, but someone will listen to you; you just can’t give up.
I believe in you, you got this
Keep trying my friend. You are so worth it. I know it’s discouraging though. To be in a place of pain and feeling like you have to be the one to take all these steps. It would be nice to live in a world where someone could take them for you when you need it the most. It would feel much better to know and access help so much more easily. It’s frustrating and hurtful when it feels like you have to somehow advocate for yourself in order to be seen. Just the kind of thing that can make you want to retreat and isolate further.
Your therapist switching to calls is an important change, and it’s okay if it’s not something that would work for you. It’s okay to talk to her about how you feel - maybe even write a letter or email instead if it helps. It’s okay to communicate to her about how she communicates with you, so you could eventually find a common ground. If you feel like she isn’t listening to you, it’s also okay to consider seeing someone else if possible. Sometimes a therapist is not the right fit to us personally, or the relationship evolves over time in a direction we don’t like. It’s okay to consider adjustments or changes, for this is about your well-being. You matter very much, friend. 