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I struggle with letting people go. In a couple weeks I’m forced to as my therapist is switching jobs. We’ve been very close and I’m going to miss him a lot
Hello friend! Your post hits home with me because I was in a similar situation. I’m fully aware that my experience is not what everyone will have! With that said, I just wanted to share this…
When my therapist was shifting career focus, and I had to find a different one, if anyone had told me “…you will eventually like your new therapist just as much as your first one…” I would have laughed and said “there’s no way!!”
But I sit here today knowing that is real for me. I just went into it with as open a heart and mind as I could, and I’m so happy with my therapist today! It’s hard because that person feels kinda like a “life line” at times. But remember that YOU are holding one end of that line as well! 
I have had to do that so many times and in so many ways in the past several years. It is never fun to have to say goodbye, whether in someone dying, moving, escaping a terrible disaster or whatever else you have to say goodbye to them for. Live has a lot of hard goodbyes and we learn to take the pain of the separation as something we just can’t do much about. I hope you can find someone new you can trust as a counselor/therapist.
It makes sense to struggle with letting people go, friend. If anything, you are definitely not alone in this. To me personally, this struggle takes shape through any kind of loss - could it be symbolic or physical. The heartbreak it leaves you with can feel absolutely unbearable. It reactivates deep wounds and fears of abandonment each time. It creates this profound sense of disconnection and heaviness at the same time.
It’s also understandable to fear this upcoming change with your therapist. It takes time to learn to trust someone with what makes you feel so vulnerable already. So after spending months, if not years, establishing that kind of supportive relationship, knowing that you’ll have to part ways becomes a real loss and makes you feel grief. It’s like having something stable that was helping you function in your daily life being removed from your world. It leaves so many questions and generates so many conflicting emotions - between the gratitude of the journey you’ve shared together, the feeling of injustice because they’re leaving you, the fear of the unknown for what’s yet to come.
Personally, I’ve experienced this with my therapist earlier this year, and just started to see a new one last week. Before that, there’s been a 7-months gap of no therapy. I seeked new options, but I think I just still wasn’t ready to try again. It has helped me to accept that it would take time, while also not closing the door in my mind. I knew I would try with a new therapist at some point, but also accepted that I needed time to mourn the previous one. It was no one fault’s really - she changed the location of her appointments, which made it impossible for me to continue with her. It has helped that, at the time, she left room to talk about how it was making me feel. Last meeting, we cried together for a bit and that, somehow, helped for closure. But at the moment it did feel like heartbreak, even if I knew objectively that it was just life happening.
However you feel right now makes sense and is okay to share, here but also with your therapist before saying your goodbyes. It’s healthy to take time to recognize the growth you have known together since your first appointment, what are your next steps, and maybe even asking for some therapists recommendations. My new therapist was recommended by my previous one, which helps tremendously in feeling a sense of familiarity already. It’s new, but also not totally unfamiliar terirtory either. It creates some continuity.
Take all the time you need to feel, mourn, process and express what you need. Transitions are so challenging. You will make it through, friend. 
-Marie-Anne
@heartsupport thank you my therapist has given me 2 solid reccomendations. I’ve decided on one. It’s still really hard to move on 
I appreciate your support
Proud of you for giving a try to one of their recommendations <3