I’m pretty sure my boyfriend, of almost 10 months, doesn’t want to be with me anymore.
First thing I noticed was he asked me for my phone, wouldn’t tell me why. Just kept asking for it, for maybe 15 minutes. I refused to give it to him and went to my room. There was no reason for me to give it to him, no reason for him to suspect anything, and I knew I hadn’t done anything wrong.
About 10 minutes later, he messaged me to come back to his room. 5 minutes after, I saw it and came back. He basically said it was a moment of weakness, per-say. His trust issues and all that. But he had no reason to think I had done something, and I’ve never broken his trust.
Never hangs out with me anymore. He only works 3 days a week, and occasionally goes to the gym. And even though there’s plenty of time for him to go places with me, he just doesn’t anymore. He doesn’t buy me things.
I never get those ‘I love you’ texts before he leaves for work, or ‘have fun’ when I’m staying at a friend’s for the night.
He used to lay down with me when I cried, wait until I calmed down, then we’d talk it out. Even when it took all night, and neither of us slept. But now, he’ll impatiently ask what’s wrong a few times, and when I can’t answer (because I’m still crying) he’ll say he can’t help if I don’t tell him the problem and leave.
No touch, no cuddling, no intimacy. Just the occasional kiss when I ask, and it’s always quick/half-assed. He won’t even hold my hand in public anymore.
But I don’t know how to talk about it, because every time I do, he just denies it and convinces me to stay.
I don’t know if I’m just paranoid, too attached, or what, but I have no clue what to do.